Facing My Battle of Comparison

Facing My Battle of Comparison
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Today I am going to be sharing with you all, something that I personally struggle with on a daily basis, and that is the battle of comparison. As much as I hear my husband tell me how beautiful I am, I am still trying to figure out what he sees in me. I find myself scrolling through social media, and I compare myself to people that I don’t even know. I want to look better, and do better. Who I am is just not enough. I know that’s a sad thought, but that’s how I feel and think some days. And I know that I am not the only one.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." -Theodore Roosevelt

Social Media Statistics

According to the “Huffington Post,” statistics show that

  • 60% of people using social media reported that it has impacted their self-esteem in a negative way.
  • 50% have said that it has affected their relationships in a negative way
  • 80% voted that it is easier to be deceived by what others share on social media.

So how can we escape comparison, when we are surrounded by it constantly?

Stop texting and start talking.

Valuable friends are hard to come by these days, and one of the main reasons in my opinion is because we can’t seem to put away our phones. I know I may sound like your mom right now, but seriously think about it. When was the last time you put away your phone when spending time with a friend or a loved one? If you can’t think of a time then that’s a sign that you need to make time. I have found that creating more time with my friends instead of trying to find the perfect lighting to take a selfie has brought me more satisfaction in my life. I know the world pushes us to have a self centered mindset, but me are truly happier when we allow others into our hearts and lives.

"I praise you, because I am fearfully and wonderfully made." Psalm 139:14

Affirmation

Today I was struggling with my role as a new small group leader, and I was reminded by a leader above me that I already know who I am. I am the daughter of the king, and I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Words of affirmation can be so powerful in moments of doubt. That is why we need others and we need to go to the Bible or if you are not a Christian, then find some really awesome quotes. There are lots on Pinterest! Affirm yourself with kind and positive thoughts. I find that when I replace my negative thoughts with positive thoughts I stop comparing myself to other people.

Catch your breath

Every once in a while I will find myself going to a dark place. The dark place of comparison, where my mind will think all sorts of negative things. Like, “Look at how successful she looks in that picture, I will never be where she is at.” And it’s true with that attitude I won’t. I also feel like not everyone’s life is as perfect as they portray it to be on social media. However, once I find myself getting caught up in my emotions and battling with comparison I immediately turn it off, and tune my mind onto things that I enjoy.

Having a cup of coffee with a friend.

Loving on my sweet baby boy.

Going for a walk in nature.

Reading my Bible or other Blogs.

Taking a break allows me to recharge and gain control over my emotions, and helps me to see how truly awesome life is.

 

Today I have shared with you one of my top struggles. I want to be vulnerable and open up to other people, and let them see my not so perfect side. If this is something you struggle with then you are not alone. I am right there with you, and I hope that my thoughts on this topic will bring encouragement to someone.  Also if you did like this post feel free to comment or share it on social media.

5 Things to Start Doing in Your 20’s Before Buying a Home

5 Things to Start Doing in Your 20’s Before Buying a Home
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Home is where the heart is.

1. Start building your credit right away.

If you haven’t started building your credit that is something I highly suggest putting at the top of your list. When purchasing a home, almost every loaner that you come across will want to know what your credit score is, and how long you have had it. If you don’t know where to start, I would suggest going to your bank and starting with a small student credit card. My first credit card had a $200 limit on it, and I used it on small things like gas and out to eat places.

2. Make sure you are smart with your credit.

I made the mistake of going credit crazy, and now I am having to pay of $3000 worth of debt. Do not make the mistake I made. I only recommend using one credit card like the one I mentioned above, and only use it for one small thing, and as soon as it’s time to pay your monthly payment pay off 90% of what you used. That way you will be building your credit, but not allowing yourself into a massive hole of debt. Just an FYI it’s not free money guys.  

3. Start putting money back for a down payment. 

Look up money saving plans on Pinterest. Figure out what would work best with your budget, and if it means cutting out unnecessary costs then do it. Most sellers require a minimum of $3000 to $5000 down. Just keep the bigger picture in mind, and you could be a homeowner in a year or two!

4. Keep in mind the location.

For future reference think about the future. Is this an area that you want to raise a family in? Is it safe, and what kind of schools are around. This is just something to take into consideration. Especially if you are planning on buying a home with your future spouse.

5. Consider renting before buying.

I know renting may seem like you’re wasting your money, but consider these things. 

  • Can you really afford buying a home just yet? This includes house payments, home owners insurance, water, electricity. When living in an apartment most of the time the only thing you have to pay for is rent and electricity.
  • Do you have the furniture and appliances you need for your home? If you wait and rent before buying, then you will have more time to save to buy furniture and appliances, because most apartments come with the appliances. The only appliances we had to pay for where the washer and dryer, and our microwave. 

Although it is frustrating to live in an apartment sometimes, these are just some things you need to consider. 

I hope these suggestions have helped you. This is something that I wish someone would have shared with me, because it would have helped me to make smarter decisions sooner rather than later, but hopefully I can help someone from making the same mistakes that I did just because I didn’t have the knowledge or understanding of everything that goes into buying a home.

“Life takes us to unexpected places, and love takes us home.”

Living With Purpose

Living With Purpose
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Defining Purpose

Everyone wants to find out what their purpose is in this life. Why am I here, and is there any meaning to life, or are we all just going through the motions? These are some great questions, but sadly I am not the one to say why you where put on this earth, but I can say that you are here for a reason. As a Christian I do believe that reason is spiritual. It’s connected deep down within you, and we all possess our own unique God given abilities. For those of you who do not believe in this kind of faith. Please find something to believe in, because life has no meaning without something to believe in. So my first suggestion to finding your purpose. Find something to believe in.

Find Something to Believe In

I believe that God has a plan for all of us, and we all have our own unique abilities. Ask yourself this question. Can a puzzle be completed if a piece of that puzzle goes missing? It’s a simple question really, but if I were to tell you that you were a piece of the puzzle of God’s unique plan for your life would you believe that? Maybe, and maybe not. The reason being that many of us doubt that we are gifted with our own special qualities. I know it may be hard to believe, but each and every person matters. Everyone has a purpose.

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

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Be Confident

Before I became a mother I had all the confidence in the world, but it took a while to get that way. Once I became a mother it’s like I had to start the confidence building process all over again. It’s easier to live with purpose if you live your life with confidence. So here are a few ways that you can build your confidence.

  • Self Care
  • Build Healthy Relationships
  • Be Kind and Giving
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Explaining the List Above

Self Care- Many Christians and even non Christians associate self care with selfishness. However, that can be further from the truth. God wants us to take care of ourselves. How can we serve someone else if we are running on empty. You can practice self care by doing at least one thing you love every day, and by also doing things that are necessary. Things like exercise, eating healthy, and maintaining your emotional and physical health. If we are made in the image of God and that is something to be proud of. Own that with confidence. (Song of Songs 4:7)

Build Healthy Relationships – Building healthy relationships is essential to building your confidence. My relationship with God is my top priority, then my family and friends. Building healthy and positive relationships will not only make you feel confident it will also make you happier.

Be Kind and Giving – I have always believed in the reap what you sow. I don’t think that coincidences are a thing. (Ephesians 4:32) When you are kind to others, then others will be kind to you. It’s a simple concept. Try doing one act of kindness a day, and you may find that your life has more meaning to it then you realize.

I hope that this helps you find your purpose. There is nothing that brings more peace, then knowing that you where put on this earth for a reason, and you are that reason. If you enjoyed this post leave a comment below, or share it with others!

"When it comes to the end of my journey it's not about being remembered, but who I am remembered as."

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Back to School Outfits for Mom

Back to School Outfits for Mom
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Hey, Y’all! For those of you who have not been on my blog, welcome! I am excited to be sharing this post with you. I recently started a job at a church preschool, and as you all probably know the clothes that I wear must be modest. I like to dress modestly anyway. Just a personal preference, however, most modest quality clothing comes at a pretty high price. That is until I found this site called, “Jane.”  This site has some of the cutest, modest, and affordable clothing. So I am going to put a few outfits together for Y’all. and you can let me know what you think in the comments below!

Outfit One: Casual/Dressy

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I love this look because you can either dress it up with a pair of jeans, or you can dress it down with leggings! How cute is that?

Outfit Two: Feminine Outfit 

Who doesn’t love to feel girly every now and then? I love floral prints, and they have six different ones that you can choose from!

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Colored skinny jeans would go really well with this kind of outfit.                  

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Outfit Three: Holy Moly

This outfit is absolutely gorgeous! Worried about not being able to keep a ladylike composure? Well, you won’t have to worry about it with this dress. It will be hard for the wind to blow your dress up with this one, so feel free to embrace your feminine side with nothing holding you back!

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What about shoes?

A girl can never have too many shoes. Here a few ideas of different shoes to wear with these outfits!

Wedges

I love the golden tone of these wedges so much! 

Happy shopping, and don’t forget to leave a comment in the comment box below! And Thank you, for being apart of this blog!

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Metallic Flats

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Beautiful Baby Blue Heels

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I feel like these heels would look really great with the dress I mentioned above!

Casual Shoes

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Last but not least these are my favorites! So freaking cute!

“Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak.” I hope you all like the outfits that I have suggested! This is a great site to find affordable cute clothing. Prices of these items are available, when you click on the link, below each picture, and if you try any of these outfits I would love to see pictures of them in the comments, or you can share for more posts like these, thank you for being apart of this blog!  

                                                                                                   Lauren Smith                                                                                                                Momma From Scratch

The God Driven Woman

The God Driven Woman
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Today I would love to share with you all something that is on heart, and that is what it means to be a driven woman. When I say driven I am not talking about the women who claim to be feminists who are completely anti-men, but more the woman who isn’t afraid to be who God has called her to be. The woman who doesn’t hold back despite the fears and challenges that she will face, because she knows who is in control of her life. This was shared with me by a lady in my small group, so I cannot take credit of these words, but they are beautiful and touching, and I think that every woman needs to hear this. 

The Propel Woman Is…

Unapologetic, she is a woman who leads.

Unshakable, she is rooted and grounded in the love and grace of God. 

Undaunted, by the challenges of life.

Unstoppable, as she follows the call of God.

Unmovable, she will not be manipulated.

Unselfish, she is generous with her words, thoughts, resources, and relationships. 

Undefeatable, she knows no weapon formed against her shall prosper.

Unbound, her history will not define her destiny. 

Unstuck, she moves gracefully from one season to the next. 

Undone by the love, grace, goodness, kindness and mercy of God.

Uncommon, she is not chasing worldly success, fame, or fortune.

Untamable, she is dangerous to the kingdom of darkness.

Unlimited, her potential in Christ is limitless.

Unleashed, she is not held captive to old paradigms or stereotypes. 

Unashamed, she does not minimize or hide who God has made her to be.

Unpretentious, she is real, down to earth, and accessible. 

-Jennifer N. 

If you have any doubts in your mind about who you are I want you to know that you are more than capable of being who God has called you to be. And here are just a few ways that may help you battle any self-doubts or insecurities. 

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1. God has a plan for you. 

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Trust that God’s plan for you is bigger than any fears you may face. 








2. Get affirmation by getting into the Bible. 

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Psalm 139:14 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.” When you dig deep into God’s Word, you will find that there are all kinds of Biblical affirmation. If the God who created our entire Universe believes in you, then you should believe in yourself as well. 

3. Get connected with other like-minded believers. 

When you get connected with other believers you will be surprised to find yourself feeling encouraged and refreshed. Although, I would advise that you be careful who you are surrounding yourselves with, because some people enjoy bringing others down, and I know that sounds horrible, but for those who have been to a southern baptist church they can tell you from experience that this is true. Find people who are going to inspire you, and encourage you to be all that you can be. 

I hope that this poem and advice will help you to stand up, and be the woman that you need or want to be. Just remember, that “You, yes you, can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.” Philippians 4:13. If you liked this article, please share it, or subscribe to my blog for more topics like this. Thank you, for being apart of this journey with me. 

                                                                              Lauren Smith                                                                          Momma From Scratch

Essential Oils 101 A Simple Guide to a Healthier Lifestyle

Essential Oils 101 A Simple Guide to a Healthier Lifestyle
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This post contains affiliates, which means that I will earn a small commission if you decide to join the Young Living Team with me, but at no extra cost to you. The money I make on this blog I use to support my family, and my blog. I also only share things that I personally use. Everything I post is my honest opinion and experience. 

When I think about why I got started using essential oils a quote from Platinum Distributor Sarah Harnisch comes to mind, “It’s empowering to see people get healthy. It’s a calling, not an occupation. If they say they can’t afford health, they will pay for it in other areas. Chemical use has a price on it, and that price is high. It’s about creating an awareness so they start to take steps to swap chemicals out.” That is the most important reason why I share Young Living with other people. If I can help someone to live a healthier lifestyle than I will, because God wants us to take care of the body that He has given us. If we have the option to choose better, then why aren’t we doing it? I am going to share three things you probably don’t know about essential oils, and I am also going to be sharing three excuses people tend to make when saying no to using them.

1. What are essential oils?

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All of the information I am sharing with you is coming from the Gameplan book, written by Sarah Harnisch. She is a certified aromatherapist, and highly qualified in using essential oils, so let’s get into the facts.

Essential oils are the most powerful part of the plant. They are distilled from shrubs, flowers, trees, roots, bushes, fruit, rinds, resins, and herbs. Oils consist of over 100 different naturals, organic compounds. In humans, they provide support for every system of the body: your skeletal system, your muscular system, circulatory system, endocrine system, and your hormones. They support brain health and a healthy weight. They are used extensively for emotions and for spiritual support. An oil diffuser can soothe a child’s tough day at school and provide a calming effect when you’ve had a stressful day at work. Have I educated you enough on this topic ? It honestly could take hours, but I don’t want to bore you to death. I just want you to understand the full capacity that oils can have.

2. Oils can provide an alternative to using chemical cleaning products in your home.

Did you know that you are actually spending more on your chemical filled cleaning products from the grocery store?

Let me demonstrate.

Not only is Thieves cleaner nontoxic and cost-effective, it also serves as a multi-purpose cleaner. It can be used for almost anything. Not to mention it smells amazing!

3. Some Interesting Facts About Young Living Essential Oils

I just found this really interesting and wanted to share it with you all!

  • 60 thousand rose blossoms provide only 1 ounce of rose oil
  • Lavender is abundant – 220 pounds will provide 7 pounds of oil.
  • Jasmine flowers must be picked by hand before the sun becomes hot on the very first day they open, thus making it one of the most expensive oils in the world! It takes 8 million hand-picked blossoms to produce 2.2 pounds of oil. 
  • A Sandalwood tree must be 30 years old and 30 feet high before it can be cut down for distillation.

Who knew that it took that much effort to create an essential oil? I know I didn’t until I read this book!

Three Excuses People Have Made About Investing in Essential Oils

1. They’re too expensive

The real question is how much are you willing to pay for your health? According to huffingtonpost.com On average, the typical American spends $42 a month on chemical products. Why not cut the costs, and invest in your health? Most oils range from $10-$60 and they typically come in a 5ml bottle that will last you for about three months, so that is $20 a month for your health. I can promise you it is worth it!

2. It’s inconvenient to order online

I know it can seem frustrating to order online, but the way they do it. It’s simple and effective. It takes me one week to get my monthly order in, and it is so much fun! It feels like Christmas every time for my order to comes in! So go ahead and throw out that excuse!

3. I don’t even know where to start

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Yes, you do, and you will. Once you make the choice to throw out the chemicals and toxins in your life, then I will show you where to start. Just comment below if you are interested, and I will get you set up! It doesn’t take an expert to use oils. All it takes is a desire to learn, and finding passion in using them! 

The Premium Starter Kit Costs $160 or $27.00 a month for 6 months with Paypal. This includes The Dessert Mist Diffuser, which is super cool btw it changes colors! It also comes with 11 essential oils. A Thieves Cleaning Sample, which you can use for at least two bottles of the cleaners of your choice. Two Ningxia Red all natural energy drinks, and more resources to help you learn about the oils, so you can start sharing your love for oils with others as well.

I hope this post helped with explaining the basics of essential oils! I will be talking more about them on my blog, because this is something that I am particularly passionate about, and I can’t help but share them with you guys!

Things To Do With Your Baby Before They Turn One

Things To Do With Your Baby Before They Turn One
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This quote haunts me to this day. My parents are amazing, and I truly love them, but there are things that I wished they would have done differently, and I know that my children are probably going to think the same thing about me, because we are all human, and the best way we learn is by making mistakes or watching other people make them. As a kid, the people that we looked up to the most were our parents, and I don’t know about you, but sometimes the thought that I have someone looking up to me is kind of scary. I know that I will never be the quote-unquote perfect mother, and I have come to terms with that, however, I am going to try my best to be the best imperfect mother that I can be. With that being said, lately, I have been trying to minimize the amount of TV that my child watches. Although sometimes, I will admit I give in because as a mom I need a break too. So let’s get into some of the ways that I have used to be more involved in Ivan’s life, even at a young age, and I hope that these tips will help another parent out there trying to find some answers to this problem as well.

“Be who you needed, when you where young.” -Unknown. 

1. Get your babies footprints and fingerprints.

This is more for you Mom or Dad. Our babies are only little for a short amount of time. Get creative and find a way to keep the memory of those tiny little hands and feet. One day you look back, and that will be the only thing you have left to remember those sweet innocent days.

2. Sing to your baby.

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I can promise you that I may not have the voice of an angel, but my baby seems to think that I do. Singing songs to your baby stimulates their mind, and it especially helps if you are singing the alphabet, numbers, or colors to them.

3. Count to ten.

Babies may not be able to count on their own, but counting their toes, and fingers, or playing piggy with them, will help them to understand to a certain level of what numbers are.

4. Try to limit screen time.

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I know it’s tempting to put your kid in front of a television, and I am not going to say that I never do, however it has been proven that the less TV your baby watches the more creative their minds will be. If you need some you time, then I would suggest investing in these things.

  • Baby bouncer helps get rid of all of the energy
  • Baby Mirrors. Babies love to look at their own reflection
  • Baby toys with lots of buttons, sounds, and lights

5. Make your pots and pans musical i nstruments.

When I read about this idea I didn’t know if it would work, but Ivan absolutely loved it! I feel like it helped to open up his creative side. All you need are your pots and pans, a spatula as the drumstick, and a little imagination.

6. Go swimming.

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The sooner you start swimming with your baby the better, because the longer you wait the more your child will be afraid to swim. We take our son Ivan to the swimming pool, and he sits in this baby float that we bought for him, and he has so much fun splashing around, and kicking his little legs. It’s seriously the cutest thing to watch.

7. Read with your baby.

This is a no-brainer. Just like using singing as a method to educate your baby, reading is also a way of educating their little minds. Another way you can help your baby is by investing in books that have things that they can touch, this will give them the chance to learn their sense of touch. The sooner you start reading to your baby the more they will begin to love it!

8. Have a playdate.

Start having playdates before they turn one. This will help them to start developing their social skills. We have a lot of people in our family, so Ivan has already had quite a few playdates, and he loves being around people.

9. Exercise with your baby.

This is actually probably one of my favorite things to do. Ivan may not know what we are doing, but he sure loves the 101 time he gets with mommy. It’s also a great way to get rid of the extra baby fat, without having to go to the gym, if that option is not open to you. You can find all sorts of these kinds of workouts on Youtube.

10. Make funny faces.

It is so much fun watching your baby mimic the faces that you make, and in the meantime you are showing them how to have emotions. I know it feels silly at first, but try it out. It is really cool watching your baby show their first emotions in their own little way.

“Don’t be too hard on yourself. The mom in E.T. had an alien living in her house for days, and didn’t notice.”

I hope you all enjoy this post! If you liked it, please show your support by leaving feedback or sharing the post with one of the sharing options I have on my posts! Thank you, so much for taking the time to read this post! I hope you all have a blessed week!

My Little Family

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Nothing ever prepares you for having to be apart from your soul mate, and nothing is preparing me for living the life of a military wife. Yet, here I am getting ready for my husband to leave me to go train for basics. However, it makes me proud knowing that my husband is going to be out there doing something to help someone else. For those of you who do not know me or my family I wanted to take the time to let you all know more about us, and what is currently happening in our lives right now, so here are some photos of my sweet selfless husband Stephen Watkins, and my precious fun and spunky baby boy Ivan Watkins.  Soon my husband will be leaving for the National Guard, and we will be miles apart from each other with the only communication being through letters, so please pray for our family. The transition is going to be different for sure, but with God all things are possible.


“God Bless America, land that I love.”

10 Things To Do In The Summer for Under Twenty-Five Dollars.

10 Things To Do In The Summer for Under Twenty-Five Dollars.
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“Here’s to a summer I’ll always remember, and people that I will never forget.” -XOXO Summer 2018

1. Go grab coffee with an old friend, and catch up on life.

Coffee is typically between $5-$10. Try out a new flavor and have fun with it.

2. Acts of Kindness

Do something nice for someone. Is your mom exhausted from working non stop? Offer to help clean around the house. Kindness is free, and it feels great to help someone out.

3. Have a water fight.

  • Buy Water Guns from Dollar Tree or Walmart
  • Fill up balloons with water
  • Have fun!

4. Attend a Festival

Summers are full of free or inexpensive festivals that you can attend. Find one that interests you, and your personal preferences.

5. Go to the Drive-In for $15 a carload.

Split the cost between friends, and buy your snacks from Walmart or someplace like that.

6. Have a summer photoshoot.

Capture those memories. Find something to wear in your closet, and look for unique places to take photographs with your friends.

7. Start a blog.

I know you may think it sounds crazy, but if you love to write, and share your thoughts why not let the world know that creative side to you? They deserve to see it too!

  • Start by using a free blogging platform, and I would suggest using WordPress.

8. Have a game night.

Remember those boring board games that are currently collecting dust in your closet? Well you may be surprised to find that game nights with friends and family can actually be really entertaining. Try it out!

9. Go hiking or swimming in a local area. 

Places near Alabama for those that live in the same state I live in, here are some suggestions. 

  • The Falls
  • The Millpond
  • Little River Canyon
  • Cherokee Rock Village

10. Watch the sunset.

Buy a decent wine, one of my favorite brands is called, “Barefoot,” and it’s only like $10. Enjoy a glass of wine, while watching the sunset.

I hope you all enjoyed these suggestions. Feel free to leave any of your own in the comment box below, and don’t forget to subscribe to my blog for more topics like this!

Five Keys To A Happy Marriage

Five Keys To A Happy Marriage
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I want to begin this topic, by saying that marriage in my opinion is the root and foundation of the home.
It goes all the way back to when God created the foundation of the earth. He saw man that he was lonely and needed companionship, and so he created the woman. They were a team. One was not better than the other, and I think that is where a lot of people get into arguments and conflicts, because marriage is often made out to be just another competition. God wants marriage to be more than that. One person can do amazing things, but two working together can do more. So that is why I want to share these five things, that I am learning and realizing are essential steps to having a happy marriage.

1. God has to be our number one priority.

 

 

No matter how hard we have tried to make our relationship work without God it was meaningless. I am not saying that you can’t be happy in a relationship if you are not a Christian, but what I am saying is that for me and my husband, anytime that we have put something else first in our lives, whether it be our jobs, kids, family, or something that we should not be doing, it never seems to go well for us. You may have noticed that some of the things that I mentioned are not considered bad things, and in fact they can even be great things, but not when you put them at a higher priority than God, which can be hard to do sometimes, because life does get busy, however it is possible to put God first. Sin is the only exception that will always hinder or hurt your relationship or marriage. That is the second thing that I would like to talk about.

  • Proverbs 3:6
  • Matthew 6:33
  • Matthew 22:37

2. Give each other Grace.

I know you thought that you married the perfect person, and that the only thing that you would fight over was which restaurant you wanted to eat at more, but I hate to inform you that the person that you married is not perfect, and neither is the person that you see in the mirror every morning. One day you will wake up next to the person you married, and their imperfections will start to show, and you will understand what I am talking about, and some of you may already be experiencing this. The truth is that none of us are perfect and we all need grace. Until I realized that it made some days seem almost impossible to love my spouse, and it was really hard. I hated feeling disgusted or frustrated with my spouses imperfections, but I didn’t know what to do about it, until I realized that I had them too, and he had to live with my imperfections just like I had to live with his. Jesus has not withheld His grace from me, when He died on the cross for my sins, so who was I to withhold grace from my husband that I also loved very much. Once I realized this, it made both of our lives so much better, and there was much more peace between both of us.

  • 1 John 4:19
  • 2 Corinthians 12:8-9
  • Ephesians 2:8-9

3. Date each other.

If you want to keep the spark alive you’re going to have to keep dating each other. For some of you that may seem silly, but putting in the effort to make each other happy is important. What is something that interests you both? Do you like nature? Do something together outdoors, and if you do not know what to do then try out different things until you find out what it is that you both like to do. I promise it is so much fun, and you always learn something new about your spouse that you never knew before. I know that sounds impossible, but It’s true. Also don’t forget that the little things matter too. I leave little sticky notes around for my hubby to find, and it makes him so happy. Sometimes just one small act of love or kindness can make the world of difference in your relationship.

4. Remember why you fell in love.

Go back to the day, when it all started. When you caught his gaze for the first time, or she smiled and it lit up your whole world. Remember your first kiss, and how the sparks just ignited when you held hands. Remember the laughs and the memory’s, and even remember the hard times that you have gone through together. Whenever you and your spouse are going through something difficult it has always helped me to look back, and remember when it all began. Think about the first time the words, “I love you,” where spoken, and just watch as your heart opens up and you begin to see your spouse for the person that you fell in love with, and the person that you are still in love with.

5. Stop blaming each other and start communicating.

 

I know this can be really challenging, but if we just learn to hold our tongue just for a second, and really think about what we are bothered by it will help make things better and not worst. When we get caught up pointing fingers, and bringing up things that don’t matter it only builds and adds on to the frustration. If there is an issue, a worry, a fear just plainly talk about it with your spouse. I promise your spouse is going to be a lot more open to hearing you speak calmly about any concerns you may have, then to hear complaints and nagging. We can start nagging when we are perfect, which is never going to happen, so it’s just best if we don’t.