Facing My Battle of Comparison

Facing My Battle of Comparison

Today I am going to be sharing with you all, something that I personally struggle with on a daily basis, and that is the battle of comparison. As much as I hear my husband tell me how beautiful I am, I am still trying to figure out what he sees in me. I find myself scrolling through social media, and I compare myself to people that I don’t even know. I want to look better, and do better. Who I am is just not enough. I know that’s a sad thought, but that’s how I feel and think some days. And I know that I am not the only one.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." -Theodore Roosevelt

Social Media Statistics

According to the “Huffington Post,” statistics show that

  • 60% of people using social media reported that it has impacted their self-esteem in a negative way.
  • 50% have said that it has affected their relationships in a negative way
  • 80% voted that it is easier to be deceived by what others share on social media.

So how can we escape comparison, when we are surrounded by it constantly?

Stop texting and start talking.

Valuable friends are hard to come by these days, and one of the main reasons in my opinion is because we can’t seem to put away our phones. I know I may sound like your mom right now, but seriously think about it. When was the last time you put away your phone when spending time with a friend or a loved one? If you can’t think of a time then that’s a sign that you need to make time. I have found that creating more time with my friends instead of trying to find the perfect lighting to take a selfie has brought me more satisfaction in my life. I know the world pushes us to have a self centered mindset, but me are truly happier when we allow others into our hearts and lives.

"I praise you, because I am fearfully and wonderfully made." Psalm 139:14

Affirmation

Today I was struggling with my role as a new small group leader, and I was reminded by a leader above me that I already know who I am. I am the daughter of the king, and I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Words of affirmation can be so powerful in moments of doubt. That is why we need others and we need to go to the Bible or if you are not a Christian, then find some really awesome quotes. There are lots on Pinterest! Affirm yourself with kind and positive thoughts. I find that when I replace my negative thoughts with positive thoughts I stop comparing myself to other people.

Catch your breath

Every once in a while I will find myself going to a dark place. The dark place of comparison, where my mind will think all sorts of negative things. Like, “Look at how successful she looks in that picture, I will never be where she is at.” And it’s true with that attitude I won’t. I also feel like not everyone’s life is not as perfect as they portray it to be on social media. However, once I find myself getting caught up in my emotions and battling with comparison I immediately turn it off, and tune my mind onto things that I enjoy.

Having a cup of coffee with a friend.

Loving on my sweet baby boy.

Going for a walk in nature.

Reading my Bible or other Blogs.

Taking a break allows me to recharge and gain control over my emotions, and helps me to see how truly awesome life is.

 

Today I have shared with you one of my top struggles. I want to be vulnerable and open up to other people, and let them see my not so perfect side. If this is something you struggle with then you are not alone. I am right there with you, and I hope that my thoughts on this topic will bring encouragement to someone.  Also if you did like this post feel free to comment or share it on social media.

Living With Purpose

Living With Purpose
Defining Purpose

Everyone wants to find out what their purpose is in this life. Why am I here, and is there any meaning to life, or are we all just going through the motions? These are some great questions, but sadly I am not the one to say why you where put on this earth, but I can say that you are here for a reason. As a Christian I do believe that reason is spiritual. It’s connected deep down within you, and we all possess our own unique God given abilities. For those of you who do not believe in this kind of faith. Please find something to believe in, because life has no meaning without something to believe in. So my first suggestion to finding your purpose. Find something to believe in.

Find Something to Believe In

I believe that God has a plan for all of us, and we all have our own unique abilities. Ask yourself this question. Can a puzzle be completed if a piece of that puzzle goes missing? It’s a simple question really, but if I were to tell you that you were a piece of the puzzle of God’s unique plan for your life would you believe that? Maybe, and maybe not. The reason being that many of us doubt that we are gifted with our own special qualities. I know it may be hard to believe, but each and every person matters. Everyone has a purpose.

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

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Be Confident

Before I became a mother I had all the confidence in the world, but it took a while to get that way. Once I became a mother it’s like I had to start the confidence building process all over again. It’s easier to live with purpose if you live your life with confidence. So here are a few ways that you can build your confidence.

  • Self Care
  • Build Healthy Relationships
  • Be Kind and Giving
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Explaining the List Above

Self Care- Many Christians and even non Christians associate self care with selfishness. However, that can be further from the truth. God wants us to take care of ourselves. How can we serve someone else if we are running on empty. You can practice self care by doing at least one thing you love every day, and by also doing things that are necessary. Things like exercise, eating healthy, and maintaining your emotional and physical health. If we are made in the image of God and that is something to be proud of. Own that with confidence. (Song of Songs 4:7)

Build Healthy Relationships – Building healthy relationships is essential to building your confidence. My relationship with God is my top priority, then my family and friends. Building healthy and positive relationships will not only make you feel confident it will also make you happier.

Be Kind and Giving – I have always believed in the reap what you sow. I don’t think that coincidences are a thing. (Ephesians 4:32) When you are kind to others, then others will be kind to you. It’s a simple concept. Try doing one act of kindness a day, and you may find that your life has more meaning to it then you realize.

I hope that this helps you find your purpose. There is nothing that brings more peace, then knowing that you where put on this earth for a reason, and you are that reason. If you enjoyed this post leave a comment below, or share it with others!

"When it comes to the end of my journey it's not about being remembered, but who I am remembered as."

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