Five Ways to Thrive in 2019

Five Ways to Thrive in 2019

Every new year is a fresh start. If that’s the case, then why do we feel so negative about making, “New Years Resolutions?” I think it’s because we are looking at things from the wrong perspective. We are putting too much pressure on the year 2019, instead of focusing on how we can take small steps toward a long-term goal. I would love to show you all a few tools that I am going to be investing in this year that will hopefully help us start over fresh this new year.

1. Choose your word.

I would like us to start by throwing out the word,” resolutions,” and replace it by choosing one word or phrase that has meaning to you. For example, my word this year is, “fearless.”The reason why I decided to use the word fearless is that I can be a very fearful person. I have allowed the fear of failure and fear of opinion of others to keep me being the person that God has called me to be.

2. Keep a journal.

Writing your goals down can prove to be very effective.  According to http://Forbes.com    after study shows you will remember things better when you write them down. Typically, subjects for these types of studies are students taking notes in class. However, one group of researchers looked at people conducting hiring interviews. When the interviewers took notes about their interviews with each of the candidates, they were able to recall about 23% more nuggets of information from the interviews tthatpeople who didn’t take notes. Parenthetically, if you’re being interviewed for a job, and you want the interviewer to remember you, you better hope he or she is taking notes. With that being said, if you are constantly writing down your goals, and progress, then you will more then likely be keeping up with them.

3. Accept your good days and bad days

 In a world of deadlines, there is so much pressure to be the perfect, “fitness person, artist, writer,” etc. within a short period of time.  Long term changes do not happen within a month. It takes time and effort for progress to happen. We need to acknowledge the fact that we are still human beings. We will still have that one day on our diet were we crave a donut, and you know what it’s okay to mess up sometimes. Go ahead and eat that donut I promise you won’t die, and it doesn’t mean that all of your effort to eat better has gone to waste. Leave yourself some wiggle room to mess up, and then get back up and start again. Don’t let your not so perfect days keep you from being your best self.

4. Prioritize your time.

It is not enough to be busy. The question is what are you busy about? Henry David Thoreau

To often we are caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that we forget what we are doing in the first place. If we could learn to manage our time better then we could acomplish more. With that being said, here are a few suggestions on how to manage your time better

  • Have a Morning Routine. This is something I am working on this year.
  • Have a night routine. The more sleep you get the better focus you will have for the next day.
  • Eat organic and whole foods. Stop eating processed junk. It slows your body down. 
  • Exercise. It’s been recomended to at least walk 3o min a day to improve metabolism. If you can’t find the time or money to go the gym, walking is free. 
  • Write down your top five priorities for the day. Do those first, and then whatever time you have left you can do the extras. 
  • Make sure you have an hour of self-care and relaxation. 

5. Be in the present. 

Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life. Matthew 6:27

This verse says it all. I am the biggest worrier that you will ever meet, however I am working me best to change that, because the only thing that worrying does is prevent you from growing. How crazy is it to worry about something that hasn’t even happen yet? Let tomorrow have it’s own worries, and stay in the present or the now. Don’t miss out on the beauty of oppurtunity today,because you are worried about the oppurtunities you might miss tomorrow. 

 

Why I Am Taking a Break From Instagram

Why I Am Taking a Break From Instagram

Hey y’all! I hope that you are all having a great start to this new week! So today I am going to be talking about social media. There are pros and cons, and for me personally the cons have been outweighing the pros these past few months. I’m talking about like I have been getting seriously depressed and finding myself losing a part of me that I don’t want to lose, so for that reason I will not be using Instagram again until New Years. The struggles of social media can very from person to person. For me Facebook does not have that affect on me, but for others Facebook may be their biggest weakness. So how can you know when It’s time to step back from the social media platform? Here are three ways that you can know when to take a break, or if it’s serious enough get rid of it completely. 

1. If you find yourself getting lost on social media for hours.

Social media can be really time-consuming, and if I am not careful I can allow it to take over my life. Obsessing over social media Isn’t healthy or beneficial. Once I found myself checking my Instagram every five minutes I knew that I needed a change.

2. When you allow it to affect your relationships.

The other night I had some lovely company over at my house, and instead of being fully present with them I found myself editing a picture to post on Instagram. And later I thought to myself, “Wow, Lauren, quality friends are few and you choose to spend time on your phone with people who probably could care less about you, rather than spending time with the ones who made an effort to be there for you.” If you can relate to this, then maybe it’s time to realize how toxic social media can be, if you allow it.  Personally, I don’t think social media is worth hurting my relationships. 

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3. Comparison 

I can never say this enough. Comparison is the thief of joy. When you can compare yourself and your relationships to other people it can cause so much damage to yourself and to others. Here are a few ways it has affected me in a negative way.

. It made me lose my self-confidence. This was a wake up call that helped me to see that I needed to take a break from social media. 

. It caused me to be someone I’m not. Losing yourself on social media can be very easy to do. Instagram can be a people pleasing platform if you are not careful. Just don’t lose sight of who you are, and don’t lower your values just to get an extra like. It’s not worth it. 

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. It hurt my relationships. I would compare my relationship with my spouse to other relationships. A great way to destroy your man is by telling him what another man is doing right, and what he isn’t doing right. Don’t do that. So what that guy bought flowers every week for his girlfriend. Your man stayed up with you all night when you lost your pet. Did you forget about that? I know it happens, but don’t let it. Realize what you already have before it’s too late. 

If any of these things sound like what you are experiencing, please take serious consideration about what you are gaining and what you are losing from social media. Do the pros outweigh the cons? If not, then maybe it’s time for a break. Please let me know your thoughts on this topic, and feel free to share it by using one of the shareable buttons! Thank you,

Lauren S. Watkins

Four Things That I Have Learned From Experience About Long Distance Relationships

Four Things That I Have Learned From Experience About Long Distance Relationships

Hey everyone, I hope that you are all having a lovely weekend. I have my Sweater Weather Playlist on Spotify playing in the background, and my Pumpkin Pie French Pressed Coffee sitting next to me. I think this is going to be a good weekend. Tonight I am planning a Halloween Party at my house, so I’m pretty stoked about that! So with that being said I would love to hear about your weekend feel free to talk about it in the comments below. Now to get into what this blog post is really about. Most of you know that my husband has been away for a little over two months training for basics for the US National Army, and he has informed me in his last letter sent to me that he is now officially a US Army Soldier, So Yay! I couldn’t be more proud of him. He graduates this week from basics and will transfer to his actual training for what he wants to do in the military, so it’s going to be another long three months, but I can say that without a doubt long distance is not easy, but it is very doable with the right person. Here are four things that I have learned from my experience of being in a long distance relationship. 

1. Leave room for grace and understanding.

This is probably my biggest tip to those who are going into a long distance relationship, or are already in one. Leave room for Grace. The only way that my husband and I can correspond to each other is through letters, and there have been many times where I would ask him something and he didn’t give me an answer. Not that he did it on purpose, but he’s exhausted, and has a lot on his mind trying to get through a lot of high stress obstacles. So I had the chance to either get mad about it, or have understanding and show him grace the way that I knew that I should do. Now I can’t say that there weren’t times that I wouldn’t get frustrated, but I can say that this experience had made me feel more compassion and love towards my husband and everything he has been doing. So maybe your SO forgot to call you back, or seemed to respond too late. Think about what occupation they have, and how their time is being spent. They probably aren’t ignoring you. Life just gets busy, so leave a little room for grace and understanding. You will be happier and so will your soulmate.

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2. Stay Positive and Busy.

It’s hard to have negative thoughts if you are staying busy, and getting creative with your time. Don’t focus on the negative. It will only hurt you, especially if there’s no real reason to. A lot of times when I would get caught up in a negative way of thinking I knew it was the enemy trying to get inside my head. I didn’t let him for long. I would always find something to do. Philippians 4:8 is the perfect verse that I can think of when it comes to thinking positively.  When you find yourself getting wrapped up in your thoughts don’t dwell on them. Call an old friend and have some coffee. You may be surprised at what coffee with an old friend will do for you. 

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3. Grow.

One of the best things that you can do for yourself and your SO is to grow while they’re away. Don’t sit there in your self pity. I know it’s hard, and there were days when I just wanted someone to cuddle with, and hold my hand, but it’s not healthy to stay stagnant. I have continued to pursue my dreams by learning how to market online, and doing things for the first time that I have never done before. It’s a beautiful thing to watch a rose bloom. You are that rose. Blossom and grow where you are planted. God has great plans for you, and we need to believe that. (Jeremiah 29:11) Cook a new meal, start an online course of something you have always wanted to learn, meet a new friend do things for you, or if your a mom like me try new crafts and projects with your kids. 

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Push yourself because no one else is going to do it for you. 

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4. Stop comparing yourself to other couples. 

I found myself comparing my relationship to another couples relationship whose long distance didn’t work out that great. I literally got sad thinking, “Yep, that’s going to be my luck.” Or I would catch myself looking at all the happy perfect relationships on Instagram, and feel worried that maybe I did need my husband to be with me 24/7 to be happy. What a terrible way to think. No relationship is the same, and no relationship is going to be perfect, but yours is yours, and God gave you that SO, so enjoy your love story, and don’t compare yours to someone else’s. Song of Songs 3:4 ,”I have found the one whom my soul loves.” 

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This quote is how a long distance relationship made me feel, and I love it. Long distance relationships are not a set back they are an opportunity to reflect and become the best version of yourself. I hope you all enjoyed this post. Feel free to share your comments on the topic in the comment box below, and don’t forget to share it! Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share my journey with you all. -Lauren S. Watkins

My setback was a blessing! I survived what was meant to destroy me. I came back like a boss…fabulous, wiser and stronger than ever.

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An Apology Letter to My Husband

An Apology Letter to My Husband

Dear Husband, I apologize for failing you as your wife. These last three months that you have been gone training to serve our country, I have had time to reflect on the wife that I have become. There are things that I have done that have hurt you, and I just need you to know that this is not the wife I want to be. So to begin with I want to say I’m sorry for using my words as a weapon against you. I realize that words can be powerful, and yet many times  I have used them to discourage you rather then to build you up. Words can either bring life or death, and one too many times I have only brought destruction, but how easy it is, when something upsets me to spill words out without even thinking about what happens after I say those words. So today I want to change that. I want to start by encouraging you and bring the best out of you with my words. Second I want to stop putting pressure on you to meet my high expectations. I’m sorry, that when I took on this journey with you I thought I understood what I was saying, when I told you, “for better or for worst,” but in reality I thought that marriage was always going to be eating cake and laughter, so when the bills started pilling up, our child kept us up until 2AM, and you forgot to take out the trash my reaction proved that I didn’t truly mean the promise I made to you. Today I want to give God all of my expectations, and be grateful for the days when you did take the trash out for me. For the time I got sick, and you stopped working just to bring me Chicken Noodle Soup, and for the days that you cooked dinner for me, because you knew how tired I was as a young mother of a 3 month old boy. I want to cherish those moments, the beautiful and the ugly. Last of all I want to apologize for not protecting our marriage the way that God wants me too, and the way you need me too. Days get shorter, and so do my prayers for you. What God has given me I have taken for granted. So starting today I will pray for our marriage, and I will fight for us until my last breath. And when I look back on this day of reflection I want to be able to say, that I love you more then I did when I wrote this for you.

Ivan’s First Birthday

Ivan’s First Birthday

Hey, Y’all! I hope you are all having a lovely weekend! This Saturday my son turned one. I have mixed feelings about this as a mom. It feels like just yesterday I was holding him in my arms for the first time. Now my sweet baby boy is turning into a toddler, and is walking, and saying new words every day it seems. I love this boy with all of my heart, and a special thanks to, “Jessica Trammell Photography,” for taking these photos for us. Also for those of you who don’t know, my husband is away at basics, and wasn’t able to be there on Ivan’s first birthday, so these were just a small surprise to send to him, so he can see how much our son has grown over the past few months since he’s been away. 

Five Money Saving Apps to Start Using Now

Five Money Saving Apps to Start Using Now

Hey Y’all! I hope you are all having a fantastic week. It’s that time of the year where we start to do most of our shopping. From decorating our home and buying a new wardrobe to fit the season to Holiday shopping. So today,  I am going to be sharing with you five apps that I use daily or at least weekly. I love finding new ways to save money and to help minimize my savings, and I also enjoy helping others to cut costs too. We live in an expensive world, so why not help a sistah or brothah out. There’s no reason to live on Roman Noodles when we have resources available to us that can help us budget and spend our money well. On a side note if you do decide to use these apps as well, please help support me while I help support you, and use the referral links below. When you refer someone you get an amount of money for doing that, so who wouldn’t want to do that?

1. Ebates

If you love online shopping as much as I do, then this an app that you will definitely get some use out of. I used to love going to stores and shopping, but now that I’m a mom and don’t have as much time on my hands I find this an easier alternative to get the things I need. With this app it will tell you how much of a percentage you will earn with each store. I have only had this app for about a month and I have already made eleven dollars from just a few purchases. That’s without the referrals. For every referral that signs up you make $25!! How crazy awesome is that?? Click the referral link below to refer me, and tell your friends about it too, so you can start profiting from your online shopping too!

https://www.ebates.com/r/MOMMAF215?eeid=28187

2. The Walmart App

I promise this isn’t a post just for me to earn a profit off of. I actually really enjoy helping other people save money. Walmart is one of those apps that won’t profit me any, but it will profit you. I use this every single time I go grocery shopping. When you download the app there will be a button that says, “Savings Catcher,” and all you do is once you are done shopping you can take a picture of your receipt, and if there is another Walmart that is selling something at a cheaper price, then you will get your money back. I received more than $2 back on the first receipt that I scanned. Plus they also have other benefits of using this app. I use it to create my grocery list too! No more having to bring a pen and paper. You can create the list on the app and check off the items on your list as you go!

3. Ibotta

Ibotta is a great app to use for going grocery shopping. Every now and then they will have great deals on there, and it works a lot like the way the Walmart app does, however on this app you can choose from different stores, but you have to get what they are offering to get money back. Once you buy $20 worth of food you will receive $20 back. Plus you get a percentage back on anyone you refer. Just like with the Ebates app.

If you want to get started with this app today, then you can use my referral code: dogdsyb to get an automatic $10 welcome bonus!

4. Facebook

The Facebook app is a great way to declutter your life and get rid of the junk that’s in your home and make a little side cash too! If you need to make room for the Holidays and changing seasons just put yourself on the market. Just be sure to meet in a secure place where you will fill safe. Or you can always use the Paypal option and just ship the items to the person.

5. Poshmark

I cannot get over how obsessed I have become with this app. I love reselling clothes, and going through my closet, and I also enjoy shopping on there as much as I love selling. So if you are wanting to find a way to sell your new clothes then this is the way to do so! Also for every friend you refer they earn $5 and once they make a purchase off of the app then you will make $5 too!

If you would like to download this app then use my referral code: KOUNTRYGAL18 to get your first $5! And you can check out my closet if you want to get the general idea of how Poshmark works!

Facing My Battle of Comparison

Facing My Battle of Comparison

Today I am going to be sharing with you all, something that I personally struggle with on a daily basis, and that is the battle of comparison. As much as I hear my husband tell me how beautiful I am, I am still trying to figure out what he sees in me. I find myself scrolling through social media, and I compare myself to people that I don’t even know. I want to look better, and do better. Who I am is just not enough. I know that’s a sad thought, but that’s how I feel and think some days. And I know that I am not the only one.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." -Theodore Roosevelt

Social Media Statistics

According to the “Huffington Post,” statistics show that

  • 60% of people using social media reported that it has impacted their self-esteem in a negative way.
  • 50% have said that it has affected their relationships in a negative way
  • 80% voted that it is easier to be deceived by what others share on social media.

So how can we escape comparison, when we are surrounded by it constantly?

Stop texting and start talking.

Valuable friends are hard to come by these days, and one of the main reasons in my opinion is because we can’t seem to put away our phones. I know I may sound like your mom right now, but seriously think about it. When was the last time you put away your phone when spending time with a friend or a loved one? If you can’t think of a time then that’s a sign that you need to make time. I have found that creating more time with my friends instead of trying to find the perfect lighting to take a selfie has brought me more satisfaction in my life. I know the world pushes us to have a self centered mindset, but me are truly happier when we allow others into our hearts and lives.

"I praise you, because I am fearfully and wonderfully made." Psalm 139:14

Affirmation

Today I was struggling with my role as a new small group leader, and I was reminded by a leader above me that I already know who I am. I am the daughter of the king, and I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Words of affirmation can be so powerful in moments of doubt. That is why we need others and we need to go to the Bible or if you are not a Christian, then find some really awesome quotes. There are lots on Pinterest! Affirm yourself with kind and positive thoughts. I find that when I replace my negative thoughts with positive thoughts I stop comparing myself to other people.

Catch your breath

Every once in a while I will find myself going to a dark place. The dark place of comparison, where my mind will think all sorts of negative things. Like, “Look at how successful she looks in that picture, I will never be where she is at.” And it’s true with that attitude I won’t. I also feel like not everyone’s life is not as perfect as they portray it to be on social media. However, once I find myself getting caught up in my emotions and battling with comparison I immediately turn it off, and tune my mind onto things that I enjoy.

Having a cup of coffee with a friend.

Loving on my sweet baby boy.

Going for a walk in nature.

Reading my Bible or other Blogs.

Taking a break allows me to recharge and gain control over my emotions, and helps me to see how truly awesome life is.

 

Today I have shared with you one of my top struggles. I want to be vulnerable and open up to other people, and let them see my not so perfect side. If this is something you struggle with then you are not alone. I am right there with you, and I hope that my thoughts on this topic will bring encouragement to someone.  Also if you did like this post feel free to comment or share it on social media.

Living With Purpose

Living With Purpose
Defining Purpose

Everyone wants to find out what their purpose is in this life. Why am I here, and is there any meaning to life, or are we all just going through the motions? These are some great questions, but sadly I am not the one to say why you where put on this earth, but I can say that you are here for a reason. As a Christian I do believe that reason is spiritual. It’s connected deep down within you, and we all possess our own unique God given abilities. For those of you who do not believe in this kind of faith. Please find something to believe in, because life has no meaning without something to believe in. So my first suggestion to finding your purpose. Find something to believe in.

Find Something to Believe In

I believe that God has a plan for all of us, and we all have our own unique abilities. Ask yourself this question. Can a puzzle be completed if a piece of that puzzle goes missing? It’s a simple question really, but if I were to tell you that you were a piece of the puzzle of God’s unique plan for your life would you believe that? Maybe, and maybe not. The reason being that many of us doubt that we are gifted with our own special qualities. I know it may be hard to believe, but each and every person matters. Everyone has a purpose.

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

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Be Confident

Before I became a mother I had all the confidence in the world, but it took a while to get that way. Once I became a mother it’s like I had to start the confidence building process all over again. It’s easier to live with purpose if you live your life with confidence. So here are a few ways that you can build your confidence.

  • Self Care
  • Build Healthy Relationships
  • Be Kind and Giving
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Explaining the List Above

Self Care- Many Christians and even non Christians associate self care with selfishness. However, that can be further from the truth. God wants us to take care of ourselves. How can we serve someone else if we are running on empty. You can practice self care by doing at least one thing you love every day, and by also doing things that are necessary. Things like exercise, eating healthy, and maintaining your emotional and physical health. If we are made in the image of God and that is something to be proud of. Own that with confidence. (Song of Songs 4:7)

Build Healthy Relationships – Building healthy relationships is essential to building your confidence. My relationship with God is my top priority, then my family and friends. Building healthy and positive relationships will not only make you feel confident it will also make you happier.

Be Kind and Giving – I have always believed in the reap what you sow. I don’t think that coincidences are a thing. (Ephesians 4:32) When you are kind to others, then others will be kind to you. It’s a simple concept. Try doing one act of kindness a day, and you may find that your life has more meaning to it then you realize.

I hope that this helps you find your purpose. There is nothing that brings more peace, then knowing that you where put on this earth for a reason, and you are that reason. If you enjoyed this post leave a comment below, or share it with others!

"When it comes to the end of my journey it's not about being remembered, but who I am remembered as."

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The God Driven Woman

The God Driven Woman

Today I would love to share with you all something that is on heart, and that is what it means to be a driven woman. When I say driven I am not talking about the women who claim to be feminists who are completely anti-men, but more the woman who isn’t afraid to be who God has called her to be. The woman who doesn’t hold back despite the fears and challenges that she will face, because she knows who is in control of her life. This was shared with me by a lady in my small group, so I cannot take credit of these words, but they are beautiful and touching, and I think that every woman needs to hear this. 

The Propel Woman Is…

Unapologetic, she is a woman who leads.

Unshakable, she is rooted and grounded in the love and grace of God. 

Undaunted, by the challenges of life.

Unstoppable, as she follows the call of God.

Unmovable, she will not be manipulated.

Unselfish, she is generous with her words, thoughts, resources, and relationships. 

Undefeatable, she knows no weapon formed against her shall prosper.

Unbound, her history will not define her destiny. 

Unstuck, she moves gracefully from one season to the next. 

Undone by the love, grace, goodness, kindness and mercy of God.

Uncommon, she is not chasing worldly success, fame, or fortune.

Untamable, she is dangerous to the kingdom of darkness.

Unlimited, her potential in Christ is limitless.

Unleashed, she is not held captive to old paradigms or stereotypes. 

Unashamed, she does not minimize or hide who God has made her to be.

Unpretentious, she is real, down to earth, and accessible. 

-Jennifer N. 

If you have any doubts in your mind about who you are I want you to know that you are more than capable of being who God has called you to be. And here are just a few ways that may help you battle any self-doubts or insecurities. 

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1. God has a plan for you. 

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Trust that God’s plan for you is bigger than any fears you may face. 

2. Get affirmation by getting into the Bible. 

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Psalm 139:14 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.” When you dig deep into God’s Word, you will find that there are all kinds of Biblical affirmation. If the God who created our entire Universe believes in you, then you should believe in yourself as well. 

3. Get connected with other like-minded believers. 

When you get connected with other believers you will be surprised to find yourself feeling encouraged and refreshed. Although, I would advise that you be careful who you are surrounding yourselves with, because some people enjoy bringing others down, and I know that sounds horrible, but for those who have been to a southern baptist church they can tell you from experience that this is true. Find people who are going to inspire you, and encourage you to be all that you can be. 

I hope that this poem and advice will help you to stand up, and be the woman that you need or want to be. Just remember, that “You, yes you, can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.” Philippians 4:13. If you liked this article, please share it, or subscribe to my blog for more topics like this. Thank you, for being apart of this journey with me. 

                                                                              Lauren Smith                                                                          Momma From Scratch

5 Things to Start Doing in Your 20’s Before Buying a Home

5 Things to Start Doing in Your 20’s Before Buying a Home

Home is where the heart is.

1. Start building your credit right away.

If you haven’t started building your credit that is something I highly suggest putting at the top of your list. When purchasing a home, almost every loaner that you come across will want to know what your credit score is, and how long you have had it. If you don’t know where to start, I would suggest going to your bank and starting with a small student credit card. My first credit card had a $200 limit on it, and I used it on small things like gas and out to eat places.

2. Make sure you are smart with your credit.

I made the mistake of going credit crazy, and now I am having to pay of $3000 worth of debt. Do not make the mistake I made. I only recommend using one credit card like the one I mentioned above, and only use it for one small thing, and as soon as it’s time to pay your monthly payment pay off 90% of what you used. That way you will be building your credit, but not allowing yourself into a massive hole of debt. Just an FYI it’s not free money guys.  

3. Start putting money back for a down payment. 

Look up money saving plans on Pinterest. Figure out what would work best with your budget, and if it means cutting out unnecessary costs then do it. Most sellers require a minimum of $3000 to $5000 down. Just keep the bigger picture in mind, and you could be a homeowner in a year or two!

4. Keep in mind the location.

For future reference think about the future. Is this an area that you want to raise a family in? Is it safe, and what kind of schools are around. This is just something to take into consideration. Especially if you are planning on buying a home with your future spouse.

5. Consider renting before buying.

I know renting may seem like you’re wasting your money, but consider these things. 

  • Can you really afford buying a home just yet? This includes house payments, home owners insurance, water, electricity. When living in an apartment most of the time the only thing you have to pay for is rent and electricity.
  • Do you have the furniture and appliances you need for your home? If you wait and rent before buying, then you will have more time to save to buy furniture and appliances, because most apartments come with the appliances. The only appliances we had to pay for where the washer and dryer, and our microwave. 

Although it is frustrating to live in an apartment sometimes, these are just some things you need to consider. 

I hope these suggestions have helped you. This is something that I wish someone would have shared with me, because it would have helped me to make smarter decisions sooner rather than later, but hopefully I can help someone from making the same mistakes that I did just because I didn’t have the knowledge or understanding of everything that goes into buying a home.

“Life takes us to unexpected places, and love takes us home.”