5 Things to Start Doing in Your 20’s Before Buying a Home

5 Things to Start Doing in Your 20’s Before Buying a Home

Home is where the heart is.

1. Start building your credit right away.

If you haven’t started building your credit that is something I highly suggest putting at the top of your list. When purchasing a home, almost every loaner that you come across will want to know what your credit score is, and how long you have had it. If you don’t know where to start, I would suggest going to your bank and starting with a small student credit card. My first credit card had a $200 limit on it, and I used it on small things like gas and out to eat places.

2. Make sure you are smart with your credit.

I made the mistake of going credit crazy, and now I am having to pay of $3000 worth of debt. Do not make the mistake I made. I only recommend using one credit card like the one I mentioned above, and only use it for one small thing, and as soon as it’s time to pay your monthly payment pay off 90% of what you used. That way you will be building your credit, but not allowing yourself into a massive hole of debt. Just an FYI it’s not free money guys.  

3. Start putting money back for a down payment. 

Look up money saving plans on Pinterest. Figure out what would work best with your budget, and if it means cutting out unnecessary costs then do it. Most sellers require a minimum of $3000 to $5000 down. Just keep the bigger picture in mind, and you could be a homeowner in a year or two!

4. Keep in mind the location.

For future reference think about the future. Is this an area that you want to raise a family in? Is it safe, and what kind of schools are around. This is just something to take into consideration. Especially if you are planning on buying a home with your future spouse.

5. Consider renting before buying.

I know renting may seem like you’re wasting your money, but consider these things. 

  • Can you really afford buying a home just yet? This includes house payments, home owners insurance, water, electricity. When living in an apartment most of the time the only thing you have to pay for is rent and electricity.
  • Do you have the furniture and appliances you need for your home? If you wait and rent before buying, then you will have more time to save to buy furniture and appliances, because most apartments come with the appliances. The only appliances we had to pay for where the washer and dryer, and our microwave. 

Although it is frustrating to live in an apartment sometimes, these are just some things you need to consider. 

I hope these suggestions have helped you. This is something that I wish someone would have shared with me, because it would have helped me to make smarter decisions sooner rather than later, but hopefully I can help someone from making the same mistakes that I did just because I didn’t have the knowledge or understanding of everything that goes into buying a home.

“Life takes us to unexpected places, and love takes us home.”

Things To Do With Your Baby Before They Turn One

Things To Do With Your Baby Before They Turn One

This quote haunts me to this day. My parents are amazing, and I truly love them, but there are things that I wished they would have done differently, and I know that my children are probably going to think the same thing about me, because we are all human, and the best way we learn is by making mistakes or watching other people make them. As a kid, the people that we looked up to the most were our parents, and I don’t know about you, but sometimes the thought that I have someone looking up to me is kind of scary. I know that I will never be the quote-unquote perfect mother, and I have come to terms with that, however, I am going to try my best to be the best imperfect mother that I can be. With that being said, lately, I have been trying to minimize the amount of TV that my child watches. Although sometimes, I will admit I give in because as a mom I need a break too. So let’s get into some of the ways that I have used to be more involved in Ivan’s life, even at a young age, and I hope that these tips will help another parent out there trying to find some answers to this problem as well.

“Be who you needed, when you where young.” -Unknown. 

1. Get your babies footprints and fingerprints.

This is more for you Mom or Dad. Our babies are only little for a short amount of time. Get creative and find a way to keep the memory of those tiny little hands and feet. One day you look back, and that will be the only thing you have left to remember those sweet innocent days.

2. Sing to your baby.

Photo by Guillaume de Germain on Unsplash

I can promise you that I may not have the voice of an angel, but my baby seems to think that I do. Singing songs to your baby stimulates their mind, and it especially helps if you are singing the alphabet, numbers, or colors to them.

3. Count to ten.

Babies may not be able to count on their own, but counting their toes, and fingers, or playing piggy with them, will help them to understand to a certain level of what numbers are.

4. Try to limit screen time.

Photo by Isaac Del Toro on Unsplash

I know it’s tempting to put your kid in front of a television, and I am not going to say that I never do, however it has been proven that the less TV your baby watches the more creative their minds will be. If you need some you time, then I would suggest investing in these things.

  • Baby bouncer helps get rid of all of the energy
  • Baby Mirrors. Babies love to look at their own reflection
  • Baby toys with lots of buttons, sounds, and lights

5. Make your pots and pans musical i nstruments.

When I read about this idea I didn’t know if it would work, but Ivan absolutely loved it! I feel like it helped to open up his creative side. All you need are your pots and pans, a spatula as the drumstick, and a little imagination.

6. Go swimming.

Photo by Derek Thomson on Unsplash

The sooner you start swimming with your baby the better, because the longer you wait the more your child will be afraid to swim. We take our son Ivan to the swimming pool, and he sits in this baby float that we bought for him, and he has so much fun splashing around, and kicking his little legs. It’s seriously the cutest thing to watch.

7. Read with your baby.

This is a no-brainer. Just like using singing as a method to educate your baby, reading is also a way of educating their little minds. Another way you can help your baby is by investing in books that have things that they can touch, this will give them the chance to learn their sense of touch. The sooner you start reading to your baby the more they will begin to love it!

8. Have a playdate.

Start having playdates before they turn one. This will help them to start developing their social skills. We have a lot of people in our family, so Ivan has already had quite a few playdates, and he loves being around people.

9. Exercise with your baby.

This is actually probably one of my favorite things to do. Ivan may not know what we are doing, but he sure loves the 101 time he gets with mommy. It’s also a great way to get rid of the extra baby fat, without having to go to the gym, if that option is not open to you. You can find all sorts of these kinds of workouts on Youtube.

10. Make funny faces.

It is so much fun watching your baby mimic the faces that you make, and in the meantime you are showing them how to have emotions. I know it feels silly at first, but try it out. It is really cool watching your baby show their first emotions in their own little way.

“Don’t be too hard on yourself. The mom in E.T. had an alien living in her house for days, and didn’t notice.”

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My Little Family

Nothing ever prepares you for having to be apart from your soul mate, and nothing is preparing me for living the life of a military wife. Yet, here I am getting ready for my husband to leave me to go train for basics. However, it makes me proud knowing that my husband is going to be out there doing something to help someone else. For those of you who do not know me or my family I wanted to take the time to let you all know more about us, and what is currently happening in our lives right now, so here are some photos of my sweet selfless husband Stephen Watkins, and my precious fun and spunky baby boy Ivan Watkins.  Soon my husband will be leaving for the National Guard, and we will be miles apart from each other with the only communication being through letters, so please pray for our family. The transition is going to be different for sure, but with God all things are possible.


“God Bless America, land that I love.”

10 Things To Do In The Summer for Under Twenty-Five Dollars.

10 Things To Do In The Summer for Under Twenty-Five Dollars.

“Here’s to a summer I’ll always remember, and people that I will never forget.” -XOXO Summer 2018

1. Go grab coffee with an old friend, and catch up on life.

Coffee is typically between $5-$10. Try out a new flavor and have fun with it.

2. Acts of Kindness

Do something nice for someone. Is your mom exhausted from working non stop? Offer to help clean around the house. Kindness is free, and it feels great to help someone out.

3. Have a water fight.

  • Buy Water Guns from Dollar Tree or Walmart
  • Fill up balloons with water
  • Have fun!

4. Attend a Festival

Summers are full of free or inexpensive festivals that you can attend. Find one that interests you, and your personal preferences.

5. Go to the Drive-In for $15 a carload.

Split the cost between friends, and buy your snacks from Walmart or someplace like that.

6. Have a summer photoshoot.

Capture those memories. Find something to wear in your closet, and look for unique places to take photographs with your friends.

7. Start a blog.

I know you may think it sounds crazy, but if you love to write, and share your thoughts why not let the world know that creative side to you? They deserve to see it too!

  • Start by using a free blogging platform, and I would suggest using WordPress.

8. Have a game night.

Remember those boring board games that are currently collecting dust in your closet? Well you may be surprised to find that game nights with friends and family can actually be really entertaining. Try it out!

9. Go hiking or swimming in a local area. 

Places near Alabama for those that live in the same state I live in, here are some suggestions. 

  • The Falls
  • The Millpond
  • Little River Canyon
  • Cherokee Rock Village

10. Watch the sunset.

Buy a decent wine, one of my favorite brands is called, “Barefoot,” and it’s only like $10. Enjoy a glass of wine, while watching the sunset.

I hope you all enjoyed these suggestions. Feel free to leave any of your own in the comment box below, and don’t forget to subscribe to my blog for more topics like this!

Five Keys To A Happy Marriage

Five Keys To A Happy Marriage

I want to begin this topic, by saying that marriage in my opinion is the root and foundation of the home.
It goes all the way back to when God created the foundation of the earth. He saw man that he was lonely and needed companionship, and so he created the woman. They were a team. One was not better than the other, and I think that is where a lot of people get into arguments and conflicts, because marriage is often made out to be just another competition. God wants marriage to be more than that. One person can do amazing things, but two working together can do more. So that is why I want to share these five things, that I am learning and realizing are essential steps to having a happy marriage.

1. God has to be our number one priority.

 

 

No matter how hard we have tried to make our relationship work without God it was meaningless. I am not saying that you can’t be happy in a relationship if you are not a Christian, but what I am saying is that for me and my husband, anytime that we have put something else first in our lives, whether it be our jobs, kids, family, or something that we should not be doing, it never seems to go well for us. You may have noticed that some of the things that I mentioned are not considered bad things, and in fact they can even be great things, but not when you put them at a higher priority than God, which can be hard to do sometimes, because life does get busy, however it is possible to put God first. Sin is the only exception that will always hinder or hurt your relationship or marriage. That is the second thing that I would like to talk about.

  • Proverbs 3:6
  • Matthew 6:33
  • Matthew 22:37

2. Give each other Grace.

I know you thought that you married the perfect person, and that the only thing that you would fight over was which restaurant you wanted to eat at more, but I hate to inform you that the person that you married is not perfect, and neither is the person that you see in the mirror every morning. One day you will wake up next to the person you married, and their imperfections will start to show, and you will understand what I am talking about, and some of you may already be experiencing this. The truth is that none of us are perfect and we all need grace. Until I realized that it made some days seem almost impossible to love my spouse, and it was really hard. I hated feeling disgusted or frustrated with my spouses imperfections, but I didn’t know what to do about it, until I realized that I had them too, and he had to live with my imperfections just like I had to live with his. Jesus has not withheld His grace from me, when He died on the cross for my sins, so who was I to withhold grace from my husband that I also loved very much. Once I realized this, it made both of our lives so much better, and there was much more peace between both of us.

  • 1 John 4:19
  • 2 Corinthians 12:8-9
  • Ephesians 2:8-9

3. Date each other.

If you want to keep the spark alive you’re going to have to keep dating each other. For some of you that may seem silly, but putting in the effort to make each other happy is important. What is something that interests you both? Do you like nature? Do something together outdoors, and if you do not know what to do then try out different things until you find out what it is that you both like to do. I promise it is so much fun, and you always learn something new about your spouse that you never knew before. I know that sounds impossible, but It’s true. Also don’t forget that the little things matter too. I leave little sticky notes around for my hubby to find, and it makes him so happy. Sometimes just one small act of love or kindness can make the world of difference in your relationship.

4. Remember why you fell in love.

Go back to the day, when it all started. When you caught his gaze for the first time, or she smiled and it lit up your whole world. Remember your first kiss, and how the sparks just ignited when you held hands. Remember the laughs and the memory’s, and even remember the hard times that you have gone through together. Whenever you and your spouse are going through something difficult it has always helped me to look back, and remember when it all began. Think about the first time the words, “I love you,” where spoken, and just watch as your heart opens up and you begin to see your spouse for the person that you fell in love with, and the person that you are still in love with.

5. Stop blaming each other and start communicating.

 

I know this can be really challenging, but if we just learn to hold our tongue just for a second, and really think about what we are bothered by it will help make things better and not worst. When we get caught up pointing fingers, and bringing up things that don’t matter it only builds and adds on to the frustration. If there is an issue, a worry, a fear just plainly talk about it with your spouse. I promise your spouse is going to be a lot more open to hearing you speak calmly about any concerns you may have, then to hear complaints and nagging. We can start nagging when we are perfect, which is never going to happen, so it’s just best if we don’t.

 

A Cleaning Schedule for the Busy Mom

A Cleaning Schedule for the Busy Mom

Hey, everyone! Today I am going to be sharing with all of you working moms how to keep your home clean and put together. I know that with a chaotic schedule it can be hard to manage our homes, and stick to a routine. I have finally found a way to do that. However, I have found that the trick is that you don’t want to put too much on your to do list, otherwise you will find yourself overwhelmed, and possibly having a meltdown. To be honest I may have had one or two. So that is why I wanted to share this with you, because I know as a Christian mom specifically we want to put our family and home life first, so let’s get into it!

Galatians 6:9 And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.

 

Every Morning

  • Empty the dishwasher
  • Wash a load of laundry
  • Make Bed

In the Evening

  • Run the dishwasher
  • Fold a load of clothes
  • Do daily cleaning duty
  • Get everything ready for the next day

Ex. Pick out outfits for the next day yours, and children’s, make sure kids have a bath, Make sure backpacks are already packed with whatever is necessary for the next day. Tidy up kitchen and living room, or bedroom, if needed.

Daily Duties

  1. Mondays – Bathrooms
  2. Tuesdays – Mop room that can be mopped
  3. Wednesdays – Vacuum
  4. Thursdays – Dust everything
  5. Fridays – Monthly Duties

Monthly Cleaning Duties

  • Clean out and organize closets
  • Clean Out the Fridge
  • Clean the Microwave
  • Clean Cabinets, Walls or Doors
  • Clean Out Pantry

Only Choose one to two every Friday. You don’t want to get overwhelmed with too many tasks.

I hope these suggestions will help you out, and it may take a week or two to get this schedule going smoothly until it turns into a routine, so try not to get discouraged if you are a little behind on the first two weeks. I promise it get’s easier! Just keep your head up Mamma! I promise you have got this! If any other working moms have any more suggestions feel free to share and leave a comment below. And of course for more posts like this, subscribe to my blog! I hope you all have a blessed weekend!

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Love you all Sincerely,

Lauren Smith

Sunday Notes – “Four Principles of Rest”

Sunday Notes – “Four Principles of Rest”

Matthew 11: 28-30 (AMP) “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavily burdened (by religious rituals that offer no peace), and I will give you rest (refreshing your souls with salvation). Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me (following Me as My disciple), for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU Will Find Rest (renewal, blessed quiet) For Your Souls. For My yoke is easy (to bear) and My burden is light.” What a beautiful passage of scripture, and I love the way this version of the Bible puts it. Today we live in a busy world, and sometimes we can get caught up in the chaos. God’s gift to us is rest, and today I am going to be sharing with you , “Four Principles of Rest,” a message shared by Larry Stockhill. So let’s get into it!

1. “R” – stands for routine.

The most successful people normally have one thing in common, a routine. Having a routine can be harder when having a baby or little kids running around, but it is possible, and once you figure it out your life will go much smoother. Here are different kinds of routines you can establish.

  • Morning Routines – If you would like to see my morning routine, then comment, or give this post a thumbs up.
  • Work Routine – Getting ready for work can be a hassle, so if you are like me you need to get things ready in advance, so you aren’t running around like a chicken with your head cut off.
  • Family Routine- Family comes as a priority after God, so to me having a planned family day is really important, so I try to have one once a week.
  • Date Night – This also is very important, because in order to have a successful family your marriage needs to be the first priority in your family. So make sure you have a date night. Even if a date night just means playing a card game together, and sharing your dreams, when you lay down your kids at night. You need the one on one time with your man.
  •  Meal Routine- This can be hard for us depending on how well our day flows, so for us it’s hard to have a set time, so this is something we are still working on.
  • Sleep Routine – This to me is extremely important, because it’s hard to function properly without enough sleep. I am now currently going to bed at 10:30 PM. I would like to go to bed earlier, but for now that’s the earliest I can make it.

2. “E” Emotions – Learn to manage your emotions.

When he started talking to this I knew he was talking about me. I just recently found out that I have OCD, and I will be sharing that with you all very soon, but needless to say my emotions have been a roller coaster, because I tend to overthink things, but here are a few ways that the preacher shared on how we can have better control over our emotions.

  • Perspective: Put everything out of Eternity, which basically means Is what you are afraid of, angry about, worried about etc. going to matter when we get to heaven? Most of the time the answer is going to be, no. So for me that helps me to reconsider my emotions and put them in a different perspective.
  • Margin: Space your life out better.

3. “S” Sabbath – God took one day to rest, and we should too.

I know that there’s always that one thing on our to do list that we feel like we absolutely have to do. If you are a lists person I am right there with you. However, I do believe that we should all take at least a day off, and use it to spend time with our friends and family. It will make your soul so happy and you will be refreshed, and ready to go for the next week.

4. “T” Conquer Your Thoughts.

This is definitely my biggest struggle. My thoughts are on a constant repeat, and  I have to fight fear, worries, doubts almost every day, and I liked some of the tips that the preacher shared with us.

  • Isaiah 26:3 Focus on God’s purpose. Stop focusing on the wrong things.
  • Take every thought captive. The devil will try to lie to you and he will feed you with doubts and fears, so replace his lies with the truth. Make a pros and cons list if you have to and see if what you are thinking is actually the truth. Sometimes that helps me, when I am trying to find the truth. Also get into God’s Word there are lots of truth in that book.
  • Lay back in the arms of the Almighty God, because our lives are in His hands. If you’re worried about something surrender it to Him. (Jeremiah 29:11)

 

 

I hope you all have a lovely Sunday. Try to rest and enjoy worshiping our God and welcome his presence. Also call that friend that you haven’t heard from in a while and get catch up with them. Drink a cup of coffee with your husband and take a nice nap together, or play a game with your kids, while the music is playing softly in the backgrounds. This is the day of Rest! If you enjoyed this post, please feel free to comment. For more of these posts subscribe to my blog and you will get updated every time I write another post on Sunday notes. Love you all!


 

 

Lauren Smith

Sunday Notes (Grandpa’s Wisdom)

Sunday Notes (Grandpa’s Wisdom)

]Every Saturday night I would like to go over my Sunday notes before church I go to church in the morning. I would like to share what God has spoken to me through the notes that I take. These past few weeks we have been talking about wisdom. Wisdom is a gift from God that we can all have, but it is something that we must seek. Here are the notes from the sermon called, “Grandpas Wisdom,” by Tom Mullans.

Three Truths of Wisdom

1. Be trustworthy in the small things.

When we are focused on the small things that God has put on our hearts, then we will give us the chance to excel in the big things. “We need to learn to bloom where we are planted,”and I know that cooking supper for my husband and cleaning our home may not be the most exciting thing that can happen in my life, but God has called me to serve my family, and they come second, so I am going to be faithful to God even in the small things that may even be taken for granted sometimes, because that’s when I will be prepared for the big things that he will ask me to do in my life. Also when we are trustworthy in the small things people will empower and invest in us.

2. Be a second miler.

Matthew 5:41

“If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles.”

This one really got to me, because I sometimes find myself being lazy and wanting to take shortcuts in life, but God expects us not only to do what we are asked, but to take it a step further. Go the extra mile. Don’t be that person that only half way does their job. Even if your job is to just pass a class. Give it the best you have, and if a C is pushing it, then try doing a little more and aim for a B. I know it’s hard sometimes, but as Christians God has called us to do the best with what we are given. He wants us to stand out. Remember who we are serving, and be a light to the world. 

3. Be honorable. Honor God, honor others, and honor your commitments.

Finish what you started. I know that sometimes that can seem like a burden. There have been a couple of instances where it was tough to go another day doing something that I dreaded. For example there have been a couple of jobs, where just the thought of going into work made me miserable, and there were days where I just wanted to walk out the door without any notice, but because I knew that I made a commitment it wouldn’t be right to do that, so instead I waited out the two weeks notice, and came to work until my last day. I had made a promise, and I didn’t want to dishonor people, and lately I have really realized that my actions can affect the purpose that God has for my life, so I not only want to bring honor to others and my commitments I also want to bring honor to God. Honor isn’t always fun, and sometimes we may not always like it, but in the end it makes us feel a lot better, when we know that we are making the right choices.

I truly hope that these things will help you in your everyday life. Stay tuned in for more Sunday notes, and encouragement. Try to be trustworthy in the small things, don’t be afraid to go the extra mile, and don’t forget to give honor to God, to others, and to your commitments.

Proverbs 4:6-7

6 Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you; love her, and she will watch over you. 
7 The beginning of wisdom is this: Getwisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.

 

 

 

Sincerly,

Lauren Smith.

 

Mothers Day Gift Ideas For Four Different Kinds of Moms

Mothers Day Gift Ideas For Four Different Kinds of Moms

All moms have different personalities. Although once a woman becomes a mother she often feels like she loses her own personality traits because from now on she is just known as mom. Speaking out for all moms in the world even though we love what we do, it would be nice to be known for something other than being the worlds greatest mother. So today I am going to share with you four different personalities of the different kinds of moms, and how you can truly make their day special for them.

1. The Girly Mom

Some moms are girly and enjoy being pampered, so here are a few suggestions for this kind of mom.

  • Take her to get her nails done
  • Suprise her with her favorite flowers
  • Buy her a gift card to a girly store For Ex. Victoria Secret, Ulta Beauty, Belks Etc.
  • On a Budget? Offer her an at-home spa day. Light the Candles, Make a Bubble Bath, and offer to paint her nails

Stores: Already named some above, for nails just look up local nail salons

2. The Simple Momma

Some moms would rather have practical things instead of luxury items, if you know that is your mom, then here are a few gift ideas for her.

  • If she likes to read buy her the favorite book series she likes to read. If you don’t know what she reads buy her a gift card to Books A Million.
  • If she drinks coffee. Buy her a cute mug, and fill it with chocolate, and a Starbucks Gift Card
  • If you are on a budget, give her a mom free day. Clean the house for her, and surprise her with breakfast in bed.

Stores: Barns & Noble, TJ-Max, Books-A-Million, Starbucks

3. For the Fitness and Wellness Mom

For the mom that likes to workout, exercise or so forth these are suggestions for her.

  • Buy her a new pair of tennis shoes
  • Get her a workout outfit
  • Buy a cute water bottle with the workout headbands
  • Buy a Diffuser and Essential Oils. Make sure they are legit essential oils not the kind from the grocery store. I recommend Young Living Essential Oils.
  • If you are on a budget, search at home workouts on Pinterest, print them off and put them in a binder for extra inspiration.

Stores: Hibbett Sports, Sports Academy, TJ Max, Young Living Site and you can ask me for more info on that.

4. For the Social Mom

This is for the mom who just enjoys doing things for entertainment, and socializing with others.

  • Take her to her favorite restaurant
  • Go to a drive-in movie
  • Go to the movies
  • Take her to a concert
  • If you are on a budget. Have an at-home cookout. Invite her friends or family over whichever she is closest to.

 

I hope these suggestions help. Just remember that moms do more than you realize, and it’s not always easy on us, so try your best to make not only this day but every day meaningful for them. I also want to say thank you to all of the moms out there who have sacrificed their lives for your children. Our lives would not be the same without you. So here’s to you on your day, and I hope you all enjoy it.

 

 

Things That I Am Currently Going Through

Things That I Am Currently Going Through

We all have obstacles that we face in our life, but what we have to realize is that is exactly what it is an obstacle. I try to remember the quote, “This too shall pass,” because it is so true, no matter what changes you are going through in your life eventually we will adapt to them. Just think about it for a moment. What is one thing in your life that has upset you and lasted for longer than five years? There are going to be a few traumatic moments in our lives, but we can either let those moments drag us down, or we can choose for it to be an opportunity to grow stronger as a person. I am going to share a few things that are going on in my life that have been hard, and how I am overcoming them. I hope that you can find!

1. Religious Differences

I know that for some of you when you read this you automatically thought, “Puke,” and zoned out. I know that this can be a controversial topic, and that is why I specifically choose it.  So if you are that person, then I encourage you to skip this part. However, I know that some of you who are reading this are thinking, “Omg yes, this is something I am struggling with too!” I apologize for the omg part. I am kind of a dork.  Lately, I have been dealing with a lot of confrontation with family members who don’t agree with my lifestyle of faith, and some of these people I never would expect the reaction that I have been getting from them, and I am not going to mention any names for their privacy sake, and also because I am not sharing this with you to gossip or talk bad about anyone. I am only expressing this to you because I just want all of you to know that it has not been easy. I feel like I cannot be myself and express myself the way I used to be able to around my family, because it makes them so annoyed and angry when I talk about my faith, and for me that has never happened before, and it is a natural part of my life, so I find it hard not to talk about it, but out of respect for them I have chosen not to force my beliefs on them. If God gave me a choice of whether or not I wanted Him in my life, then as much as it hurts me I have chosen to do the same for them.

2. Mommy Blues

I am currently struggling with postpartum depression, and it has been a constant roller coaster. I feel like I am stuck going through the motions. It goes something like this in the morning Ivan wakes up I feed him, change his diaper, and play with them. He then proceeds to puke on me, and then poop, and then cries until he falls asleep, and the cycle continues. In the midst of taking care of him I sometimes forget to take care of myself, therefore leading to thoughts of depression, such as, “My life has no meaning,”  “If you can hear me God, can you please help me,” ,” Or can you please send someone to help me, because I can’t do this anymore.” If you have ever had thoughts like these just know that you are not alone.

3. Life Changes

I feel like we all experience change at some point in our lives. So I know that this is something we can all relate to. I am currently preparing my heart for a change that I am about to face. Some of you may know this and some may not. For those who do not know, my husband has enlisted for the Army National Guard, and he will be leaving August 20th, of this year, and I won’t see him again until Christmas. I know some of you may think that the National Guard isn’t as hard as some of the other branches, but you are wrong. Anyone who serves in the military have to go through the hard things in order to become a member of the Military, and needless to say of the time that they have to spend away from their families. Stephen and I have not been a day apart from each other for almost two years now, so being away from him for six months is going to be a huge change for the both of us, so I am just praying that we come out stronger than we were before, and Lord willing we will.

So how am I getting through all of these things?

I promise this is going to be quick and sweet.

1. Pray, Pray, Pray

I realize what I am up against, and I cannot face these things alone, however I know someone who can. Philippians 4:13

2. Time

It takes time to heal all things. Just remember the quote, “This too shall pass,” because it will.

3. Support

I cannot stress enough the importance of having positive people surrounding you.

4. Self Care

Don’t forget to take care of yo self girl. Sorry that was cheesy, but seriously find something that you enjoy doing and get lost in it.

5. Let It Go

When all else fails, and it’s something that is beyond your control, “Let go and Let God.”

I promise that’s all I have for you, and I hope you read this and you are encouraged. We are in this together. If you have any questions, or need any prayers, please don’t hesitate to email me! I would love to be there for you.