Facing My Battle of Comparison

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Today I am going to be sharing with you all, something that I personally struggle with on a daily basis, and that is the battle of comparison. As much as I hear my husband tell me how beautiful I am, I am still trying to figure out what he sees in me. I find myself scrolling through social media, and I compare myself to people that I don’t even know. I want to look better, and do better. Who I am is just not enough. I know that’s a sad thought, but that’s how I feel and think some days. And I know that I am not the only one.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." -Theodore Roosevelt

Social Media Statistics

According to the “Huffington Post,” statistics show that

  • 60% of people using social media reported that it has impacted their self-esteem in a negative way.
  • 50% have said that it has affected their relationships in a negative way
  • 80% voted that it is easier to be deceived by what others share on social media.

So how can we escape comparison, when we are surrounded by it constantly?

Stop texting and start talking.

Valuable friends are hard to come by these days, and one of the main reasons in my opinion is because we can’t seem to put away our phones. I know I may sound like your mom right now, but seriously think about it. When was the last time you put away your phone when spending time with a friend or a loved one? If you can’t think of a time then that’s a sign that you need to make time. I have found that creating more time with my friends instead of trying to find the perfect lighting to take a selfie has brought me more satisfaction in my life. I know the world pushes us to have a self centered mindset, but me are truly happier when we allow others into our hearts and lives.

"I praise you, because I am fearfully and wonderfully made." Psalm 139:14


Today I was struggling with my role as a new small group leader, and I was reminded by a leader above me that I already know who I am. I am the daughter of the king, and I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Words of affirmation can be so powerful in moments of doubt. That is why we need others and we need to go to the Bible or if you are not a Christian, then find some really awesome quotes. There are lots on Pinterest! Affirm yourself with kind and positive thoughts. I find that when I replace my negative thoughts with positive thoughts I stop comparing myself to other people.

Catch your breath

Every once in a while I will find myself going to a dark place. The dark place of comparison, where my mind will think all sorts of negative things. Like, “Look at how successful she looks in that picture, I will never be where she is at.” And it’s true with that attitude I won’t. I also feel like not everyone’s life is not as perfect as they portray it to be on social media. However, once I find myself getting caught up in my emotions and battling with comparison I immediately turn it off, and tune my mind onto things that I enjoy.

Having a cup of coffee with a friend.

Loving on my sweet baby boy.

Going for a walk in nature.

Reading my Bible or other Blogs.

Taking a break allows me to recharge and gain control over my emotions, and helps me to see how truly awesome life is.


Today I have shared with you one of my top struggles. I want to be vulnerable and open up to other people, and let them see my not so perfect side. If this is something you struggle with then you are not alone. I am right there with you, and I hope that my thoughts on this topic will bring encouragement to someone.  Also if you did like this post feel free to comment or share it on social media.

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    1. Thank you, for your feedback! It really is a poison! My next topic is going to be on a term called Hygge, and it’s a term that the Denmarks use in learning to be content. If you are interested then you can subscribe to my blog for more topics like this. (:

  1. Social media can be very hard to use without feeling judged or judging ourselves. I try to remember that text is hard to interpret since we don’t have body language and verbal tone to back it up.

  2. It is crazy how our minds can take in the comparison rollercoster! Love that you shared this because it is so true but we always need to remind ourselves that we are watching other people’s life in just a picture or a caption.

  3. Lauren, your suggestions for fighting the temptation to compare ourselves to others are wonderful. It just so happens that at this very moment, Alexa is playing “Who you say I am” by Hillsong. God orchestrated that! And, as I typed that, He followed it up with “Hello, My Name is..” by Matthew West. Obviously, he wanted to remind me of the truths in your post today. Thank you! (And thanks for sharing your post with us at Encouraging Word Wednesday this week!)
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    1. Aww, thank you so much! I am so glad I could be of some encouragement. That was my whole goal when I started this blog! I also recently read your blog post, “You are enough,” and other lies we tell each other, and that was such a real post! We are so blessed by the fact that it’s okay to not be enough. We can find a freedom that Christ is enough.

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