Hey everyone, I hope that you are all having a lovely weekend. I have my Sweater Weather Playlist on Spotify playing in the background, and my Pumpkin Pie French Pressed Coffee sitting next to me. I think this is going to be a good weekend. Tonight I am planning a Halloween Party at my house, so I’m pretty stoked about that! So with that being said I would love to hear about your weekend feel free to talk about it in the comments below. Now to get into what this blog post is really about. Most of you know that my husband has been away for a little over two months training for basics for the US National Army, and he has informed me in his last letter sent to me that he is now officially a US Army Soldier, So Yay! I couldn’t be more proud of him. He graduates this week from basics and will transfer to his actual training for what he wants to do in the military, so it’s going to be another long three months, but I can say that without a doubt long distance is not easy, but it is very doable with the right person. Here are four things that I have learned from my experience of being in a long distance relationship.
1. Leave room for grace and understanding.
This is probably my biggest tip to those who are going into a long distance relationship, or are already in one. Leave room for Grace. The only way that my husband and I can correspond to each other is through letters, and there have been many times where I would ask him something and he didn’t give me an answer. Not that he did it on purpose, but he’s exhausted, and has a lot on his mind trying to get through a lot of high stress obstacles. So I had the chance to either get mad about it, or have understanding and show him grace the way that I knew that I should do. Now I can’t say that there weren’t times that I wouldn’t get frustrated, but I can say that this experience had made me feel more compassion and love towards my husband and everything he has been doing. So maybe your SO forgot to call you back, or seemed to respond too late. Think about what occupation they have, and how their time is being spent. They probably aren’t ignoring you. Life just gets busy, so leave a little room for grace and understanding. You will be happier and so will your soulmate.
2. Stay Positive and Busy.
It’s hard to have negative thoughts if you are staying busy, and getting creative with your time. Don’t focus on the negative. It will only hurt you, especially if there’s no real reason to. A lot of times when I would get caught up in a negative way of thinking I knew it was the enemy trying to get inside my head. I didn’t let him for long. I would always find something to do. Philippians 4:8 is the perfect verse that I can think of when it comes to thinking positively. When you find yourself getting wrapped up in your thoughts don’t dwell on them. Call an old friend and have some coffee. You may be surprised at what coffee with an old friend will do for you.
One of the best things that you can do for yourself and your SO is to grow while they’re away. Don’t sit there in your self pity. I know it’s hard, and there were days when I just wanted someone to cuddle with, and hold my hand, but it’s not healthy to stay stagnant. I have continued to pursue my dreams by learning how to market online, and doing things for the first time that I have never done before. It’s a beautiful thing to watch a rose bloom. You are that rose. Blossom and grow where you are planted. God has great plans for you, and we need to believe that. (Jeremiah 29:11) Cook a new meal, start an online course of something you have always wanted to learn, meet a new friend do things for you, or if your a mom like me try new crafts and projects with your kids.
Push yourself because no one else is going to do it for you.Unknown
4. Stop comparing yourself to other couples.
I found myself comparing my relationship to another couples relationship whose long distance didn’t work out that great. I literally got sad thinking, “Yep, that’s going to be my luck.” Or I would catch myself looking at all the happy perfect relationships on Instagram, and feel worried that maybe I did need my husband to be with me 24/7 to be happy. What a terrible way to think. No relationship is the same, and no relationship is going to be perfect, but yours is yours, and God gave you that SO, so enjoy your love story, and don’t compare yours to someone else’s. Song of Songs 3:4 ,”I have found the one whom my soul loves.”
This quote is how a long distance relationship made me feel, and I love it. Long distance relationships are not a set back they are an opportunity to reflect and become the best version of yourself. I hope you all enjoyed this post. Feel free to share your comments on the topic in the comment box below, and don’t forget to share it! Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share my journey with you all. -Lauren S. Watkins
My setback was a blessing! I survived what was meant to destroy me. I came back like a boss…fabulous, wiser and stronger than ever.Quote I found on Pintrest