Four Things That Happened When God Re-defined My Mistakes

Four Things That Happened When God Re-defined My Mistakes

I’m honestly putting myself in a vulnerable position because of my story despite what you may think from knowing me and my past. I grew up in a picture perfect cookie cutter home, or at least that’s what I believed until I was about thirteen years old, and that’s when I discovered that no one is perfect. Although, my family had issues we had God in our lives, and that changes everything. I’m not here to judge anyone, or condemn anyone, because you see I used to be the person that felt so damaged and so broken, and I never thought that a God so rightous could love someone like me, and because of that I didn’t want anything to do with him. And because of that I did things my way. My way resulted in a major curveball when I found out I was pregnant. It hasn’t been easy being a young mom, while everyone around me gets to travel the world when they want to, and I can’t even go to the bathroom without my child coming with me. Despite the challenges, I may face the good outweighs the bad, and allowing God to re-define my wrong choices has led to feeling happy and complete. Here are four ways that changed my perspective on my mistakes.

1. I understood God’s Love for Me.

Once I got pregnant and in a steady relationship I began to lose friends left in right. After all, I wasn’t as cool as I used to be. I definitely couldn’t drink, and I also had the tendency to fall asleep for hours at a time. Laughing now that I’m thinking about the many naps that I took. I went through a serious postpartum depression at the beginning of my pregnancy and has honestly taken about a year to get through. My marriage was also new, and we had our ups and downs. Yet through all of the mess, I knew in my heart that God was there for me. When all else failed I knew He still cared. He loved me enough, and so much that He trust me with the ultimate responsibility to take care of a life that had been given to me. How awesome is that?

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2. He mended broken relationships.

As I mentioned before, many of the friends that I had been partying with before I got prego had slowly left my side. My husband and I were hanging on by a thread, and I knew that we had to surrender our will to God, and thankfully Stephen was on the same page as I was, and because of that our relationship with each other was restored. Another relationship that was restored was my relationship with my sister. That is a big freaking miracle because I never thought we would handle being in the same room together, and now she chooses to visit more than once a week. Like we don’t share a room together anymore, so she doesn’t have to but she wants to, and I know in my heart that God brought Ivan in my life for many reasons and one of them is to make us sisters again, and I am so thankful for that.

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3. He taught me how to love others.

Through all of this God has shown me so much grace, and I want to extend that grace to others. If God can redeem my story, then He is just as capable to redeem someone else’s. When I see someone who is broken, and they feel shame. I just want to hug them, and let them know that anything can be restored. I have learned that it’s okay to feel regret for a day or two, but we need to learn to forgive ourselves because God has already forgiven us. Regret and shame will not change things it just causes us to live in the past. I want to show others that no matter how big their mistake is they are only one step away from choosing a better path, and that is where the last step comes in called, “redirection.”

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4. Living life with purpose

I know that if I had never gotten pregnant I would have kept living my life the same way. I would have never done anything with my life, and neither would my husband. Now because of my son Ivan, I have the desire to succeed and do more with my life, when before all I wanted was to have a good time. Now I am going through my second semester of school with only six more to go before I can become a sonographer. I am also super excited to be co-leading a life-changing small group with Church of the Highlands, and it’s amazing to see God working through people and through me. They say that when you teach you aren’t just teaching others you are also teaching yourself, and that is so true. My husband is currently in his last few weeks of AIT military training and is about to graduate his with Honors. And he just told me the other day that we will have the opportunity to travel to places I have always dreamt of going, but never in my life thought it would be a reality, but it’s true!

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I said all of this to say that it doesn’t matter how wrong your life has gone. Even if you take a wrong turn or two it does not matter, because as soon as you surrender your life to His plan. He will turn your life into more than you can possibly imagine.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11

Living With Purpose

Living With Purpose
Defining Purpose

Everyone wants to find out what their purpose is in this life. Why am I here, and is there any meaning to life, or are we all just going through the motions? These are some great questions, but sadly I am not the one to say why you where put on this earth, but I can say that you are here for a reason. As a Christian I do believe that reason is spiritual. It’s connected deep down within you, and we all possess our own unique God given abilities. For those of you who do not believe in this kind of faith. Please find something to believe in, because life has no meaning without something to believe in. So my first suggestion to finding your purpose. Find something to believe in.

Find Something to Believe In

I believe that God has a plan for all of us, and we all have our own unique abilities. Ask yourself this question. Can a puzzle be completed if a piece of that puzzle goes missing? It’s a simple question really, but if I were to tell you that you were a piece of the puzzle of God’s unique plan for your life would you believe that? Maybe, and maybe not. The reason being that many of us doubt that we are gifted with our own special qualities. I know it may be hard to believe, but each and every person matters. Everyone has a purpose.

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

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Be Confident

Before I became a mother I had all the confidence in the world, but it took a while to get that way. Once I became a mother it’s like I had to start the confidence building process all over again. It’s easier to live with purpose if you live your life with confidence. So here are a few ways that you can build your confidence.

  • Self Care
  • Build Healthy Relationships
  • Be Kind and Giving
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Explaining the List Above

Self Care- Many Christians and even non Christians associate self care with selfishness. However, that can be further from the truth. God wants us to take care of ourselves. How can we serve someone else if we are running on empty. You can practice self care by doing at least one thing you love every day, and by also doing things that are necessary. Things like exercise, eating healthy, and maintaining your emotional and physical health. If we are made in the image of God and that is something to be proud of. Own that with confidence. (Song of Songs 4:7)

Build Healthy Relationships – Building healthy relationships is essential to building your confidence. My relationship with God is my top priority, then my family and friends. Building healthy and positive relationships will not only make you feel confident it will also make you happier.

Be Kind and Giving – I have always believed in the reap what you sow. I don’t think that coincidences are a thing. (Ephesians 4:32) When you are kind to others, then others will be kind to you. It’s a simple concept. Try doing one act of kindness a day, and you may find that your life has more meaning to it then you realize.

I hope that this helps you find your purpose. There is nothing that brings more peace, then knowing that you where put on this earth for a reason, and you are that reason. If you enjoyed this post leave a comment below, or share it with others!

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The God Driven Woman

The God Driven Woman

Today I would love to share with you all something that is on heart, and that is what it means to be a driven woman. When I say driven I am not talking about the women who claim to be feminists who are completely anti-men, but more the woman who isn’t afraid to be who God has called her to be. The woman who doesn’t hold back despite the fears and challenges that she will face, because she knows who is in control of her life. This was shared with me by a lady in my small group, so I cannot take credit of these words, but they are beautiful and touching, and I think that every woman needs to hear this. 

The Propel Woman Is…

Unapologetic, she is a woman who leads.

Unshakable, she is rooted and grounded in the love and grace of God. 

Undaunted, by the challenges of life.

Unstoppable, as she follows the call of God.

Unmovable, she will not be manipulated.

Unselfish, she is generous with her words, thoughts, resources, and relationships. 

Undefeatable, she knows no weapon formed against her shall prosper.

Unbound, her history will not define her destiny. 

Unstuck, she moves gracefully from one season to the next. 

Undone by the love, grace, goodness, kindness and mercy of God.

Uncommon, she is not chasing worldly success, fame, or fortune.

Untamable, she is dangerous to the kingdom of darkness.

Unlimited, her potential in Christ is limitless.

Unleashed, she is not held captive to old paradigms or stereotypes. 

Unashamed, she does not minimize or hide who God has made her to be.

Unpretentious, she is real, down to earth, and accessible. 

-Jennifer N. 

If you have any doubts in your mind about who you are I want you to know that you are more than capable of being who God has called you to be. And here are just a few ways that may help you battle any self-doubts or insecurities. 

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1. God has a plan for you. 

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Trust that God’s plan for you is bigger than any fears you may face. 

2. Get affirmation by getting into the Bible. 

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Psalm 139:14 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.” When you dig deep into God’s Word, you will find that there are all kinds of Biblical affirmation. If the God who created our entire Universe believes in you, then you should believe in yourself as well. 

3. Get connected with other like-minded believers. 

When you get connected with other believers you will be surprised to find yourself feeling encouraged and refreshed. Although, I would advise that you be careful who you are surrounding yourselves with, because some people enjoy bringing others down, and I know that sounds horrible, but for those who have been to a southern baptist church they can tell you from experience that this is true. Find people who are going to inspire you, and encourage you to be all that you can be. 

I hope that this poem and advice will help you to stand up, and be the woman that you need or want to be. Just remember, that “You, yes you, can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.” Philippians 4:13. If you liked this article, please share it, or subscribe to my blog for more topics like this. Thank you, for being apart of this journey with me. 

                                                                              Lauren Smith                                                                          Momma From Scratch

Sunday Notes – “Four Principles of Rest”

Sunday Notes – “Four Principles of Rest”

Matthew 11: 28-30 (AMP) “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavily burdened (by religious rituals that offer no peace), and I will give you rest (refreshing your souls with salvation). Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me (following Me as My disciple), for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU Will Find Rest (renewal, blessed quiet) For Your Souls. For My yoke is easy (to bear) and My burden is light.” What a beautiful passage of scripture, and I love the way this version of the Bible puts it. Today we live in a busy world, and sometimes we can get caught up in the chaos. God’s gift to us is rest, and today I am going to be sharing with you , “Four Principles of Rest,” a message shared by Larry Stockhill. So let’s get into it!

1. “R” – stands for routine.

The most successful people normally have one thing in common, a routine. Having a routine can be harder when having a baby or little kids running around, but it is possible, and once you figure it out your life will go much smoother. Here are different kinds of routines you can establish.

  • Morning Routines – If you would like to see my morning routine, then comment, or give this post a thumbs up.
  • Work Routine – Getting ready for work can be a hassle, so if you are like me you need to get things ready in advance, so you aren’t running around like a chicken with your head cut off.
  • Family Routine- Family comes as a priority after God, so to me having a planned family day is really important, so I try to have one once a week.
  • Date Night – This also is very important, because in order to have a successful family your marriage needs to be the first priority in your family. So make sure you have a date night. Even if a date night just means playing a card game together, and sharing your dreams, when you lay down your kids at night. You need the one on one time with your man.
  •  Meal Routine- This can be hard for us depending on how well our day flows, so for us it’s hard to have a set time, so this is something we are still working on.
  • Sleep Routine – This to me is extremely important, because it’s hard to function properly without enough sleep. I am now currently going to bed at 10:30 PM. I would like to go to bed earlier, but for now that’s the earliest I can make it.

2. “E” Emotions – Learn to manage your emotions.

When he started talking to this I knew he was talking about me. I just recently found out that I have OCD, and I will be sharing that with you all very soon, but needless to say my emotions have been a roller coaster, because I tend to overthink things, but here are a few ways that the preacher shared on how we can have better control over our emotions.

  • Perspective: Put everything out of Eternity, which basically means Is what you are afraid of, angry about, worried about etc. going to matter when we get to heaven? Most of the time the answer is going to be, no. So for me that helps me to reconsider my emotions and put them in a different perspective.
  • Margin: Space your life out better.

3. “S” Sabbath – God took one day to rest, and we should too.

I know that there’s always that one thing on our to do list that we feel like we absolutely have to do. If you are a lists person I am right there with you. However, I do believe that we should all take at least a day off, and use it to spend time with our friends and family. It will make your soul so happy and you will be refreshed, and ready to go for the next week.

4. “T” Conquer Your Thoughts.

This is definitely my biggest struggle. My thoughts are on a constant repeat, and  I have to fight fear, worries, doubts almost every day, and I liked some of the tips that the preacher shared with us.

  • Isaiah 26:3 Focus on God’s purpose. Stop focusing on the wrong things.
  • Take every thought captive. The devil will try to lie to you and he will feed you with doubts and fears, so replace his lies with the truth. Make a pros and cons list if you have to and see if what you are thinking is actually the truth. Sometimes that helps me, when I am trying to find the truth. Also get into God’s Word there are lots of truth in that book.
  • Lay back in the arms of the Almighty God, because our lives are in His hands. If you’re worried about something surrender it to Him. (Jeremiah 29:11)

 

 

I hope you all have a lovely Sunday. Try to rest and enjoy worshiping our God and welcome his presence. Also call that friend that you haven’t heard from in a while and get catch up with them. Drink a cup of coffee with your husband and take a nice nap together, or play a game with your kids, while the music is playing softly in the backgrounds. This is the day of Rest! If you enjoyed this post, please feel free to comment. For more of these posts subscribe to my blog and you will get updated every time I write another post on Sunday notes. Love you all!


 

 

Lauren Smith