Five Ways to Thrive in 2019

Five Ways to Thrive in 2019

Every new year is a fresh start. If that’s the case, then why do we feel so negative about making, “New Years Resolutions?” I think it’s because we are looking at things from the wrong perspective. We are putting too much pressure on the year 2019, instead of focusing on how we can take small steps toward a long-term goal. I would love to show you all a few tools that I am going to be investing in this year that will hopefully help us start over fresh this new year.

1. Choose your word.

I would like us to start by throwing out the word,” resolutions,” and replace it by choosing one word or phrase that has meaning to you. For example, my word this year is, “fearless.”The reason why I decided to use the word fearless is that I can be a very fearful person. I have allowed the fear of failure and fear of opinion of others to keep me being the person that God has called me to be.

2. Keep a journal.

Writing your goals down can prove to be very effective.  According to http://Forbes.com    after study shows you will remember things better when you write them down. Typically, subjects for these types of studies are students taking notes in class. However, one group of researchers looked at people conducting hiring interviews. When the interviewers took notes about their interviews with each of the candidates, they were able to recall about 23% more nuggets of information from the interviews tthatpeople who didn’t take notes. Parenthetically, if you’re being interviewed for a job, and you want the interviewer to remember you, you better hope he or she is taking notes. With that being said, if you are constantly writing down your goals, and progress, then you will more then likely be keeping up with them.

3. Accept your good days and bad days

 In a world of deadlines, there is so much pressure to be the perfect, “fitness person, artist, writer,” etc. within a short period of time.  Long term changes do not happen within a month. It takes time and effort for progress to happen. We need to acknowledge the fact that we are still human beings. We will still have that one day on our diet were we crave a donut, and you know what it’s okay to mess up sometimes. Go ahead and eat that donut I promise you won’t die, and it doesn’t mean that all of your effort to eat better has gone to waste. Leave yourself some wiggle room to mess up, and then get back up and start again. Don’t let your not so perfect days keep you from being your best self.

4. Prioritize your time.

It is not enough to be busy. The question is what are you busy about? Henry David Thoreau

To often we are caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that we forget what we are doing in the first place. If we could learn to manage our time better then we could acomplish more. With that being said, here are a few suggestions on how to manage your time better

  • Have a Morning Routine. This is something I am working on this year.
  • Have a night routine. The more sleep you get the better focus you will have for the next day.
  • Eat organic and whole foods. Stop eating processed junk. It slows your body down. 
  • Exercise. It’s been recomended to at least walk 3o min a day to improve metabolism. If you can’t find the time or money to go the gym, walking is free. 
  • Write down your top five priorities for the day. Do those first, and then whatever time you have left you can do the extras. 
  • Make sure you have an hour of self-care and relaxation. 

5. Be in the present. 

Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life. Matthew 6:27

This verse says it all. I am the biggest worrier that you will ever meet, however I am working me best to change that, because the only thing that worrying does is prevent you from growing. How crazy is it to worry about something that hasn’t even happen yet? Let tomorrow have it’s own worries, and stay in the present or the now. Don’t miss out on the beauty of oppurtunity today,because you are worried about the oppurtunities you might miss tomorrow. 

 

Ivan’s First Birthday

Ivan’s First Birthday

Hey, Y’all! I hope you are all having a lovely weekend! This Saturday my son turned one. I have mixed feelings about this as a mom. It feels like just yesterday I was holding him in my arms for the first time. Now my sweet baby boy is turning into a toddler, and is walking, and saying new words every day it seems. I love this boy with all of my heart, and a special thanks to, “Jessica Trammell Photography,” for taking these photos for us. Also for those of you who don’t know, my husband is away at basics, and wasn’t able to be there on Ivan’s first birthday, so these were just a small surprise to send to him, so he can see how much our son has grown over the past few months since he’s been away. 

Facing My Battle of Comparison

Facing My Battle of Comparison

Today I am going to be sharing with you all, something that I personally struggle with on a daily basis, and that is the battle of comparison. As much as I hear my husband tell me how beautiful I am, I am still trying to figure out what he sees in me. I find myself scrolling through social media, and I compare myself to people that I don’t even know. I want to look better, and do better. Who I am is just not enough. I know that’s a sad thought, but that’s how I feel and think some days. And I know that I am not the only one.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." -Theodore Roosevelt

Social Media Statistics

According to the “Huffington Post,” statistics show that

  • 60% of people using social media reported that it has impacted their self-esteem in a negative way.
  • 50% have said that it has affected their relationships in a negative way
  • 80% voted that it is easier to be deceived by what others share on social media.

So how can we escape comparison, when we are surrounded by it constantly?

Stop texting and start talking.

Valuable friends are hard to come by these days, and one of the main reasons in my opinion is because we can’t seem to put away our phones. I know I may sound like your mom right now, but seriously think about it. When was the last time you put away your phone when spending time with a friend or a loved one? If you can’t think of a time then that’s a sign that you need to make time. I have found that creating more time with my friends instead of trying to find the perfect lighting to take a selfie has brought me more satisfaction in my life. I know the world pushes us to have a self centered mindset, but me are truly happier when we allow others into our hearts and lives.

"I praise you, because I am fearfully and wonderfully made." Psalm 139:14

Affirmation

Today I was struggling with my role as a new small group leader, and I was reminded by a leader above me that I already know who I am. I am the daughter of the king, and I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Words of affirmation can be so powerful in moments of doubt. That is why we need others and we need to go to the Bible or if you are not a Christian, then find some really awesome quotes. There are lots on Pinterest! Affirm yourself with kind and positive thoughts. I find that when I replace my negative thoughts with positive thoughts I stop comparing myself to other people.

Catch your breath

Every once in a while I will find myself going to a dark place. The dark place of comparison, where my mind will think all sorts of negative things. Like, “Look at how successful she looks in that picture, I will never be where she is at.” And it’s true with that attitude I won’t. I also feel like not everyone’s life is not as perfect as they portray it to be on social media. However, once I find myself getting caught up in my emotions and battling with comparison I immediately turn it off, and tune my mind onto things that I enjoy.

Having a cup of coffee with a friend.

Loving on my sweet baby boy.

Going for a walk in nature.

Reading my Bible or other Blogs.

Taking a break allows me to recharge and gain control over my emotions, and helps me to see how truly awesome life is.

 

Today I have shared with you one of my top struggles. I want to be vulnerable and open up to other people, and let them see my not so perfect side. If this is something you struggle with then you are not alone. I am right there with you, and I hope that my thoughts on this topic will bring encouragement to someone.  Also if you did like this post feel free to comment or share it on social media.

Living With Purpose

Living With Purpose
Defining Purpose

Everyone wants to find out what their purpose is in this life. Why am I here, and is there any meaning to life, or are we all just going through the motions? These are some great questions, but sadly I am not the one to say why you where put on this earth, but I can say that you are here for a reason. As a Christian I do believe that reason is spiritual. It’s connected deep down within you, and we all possess our own unique God given abilities. For those of you who do not believe in this kind of faith. Please find something to believe in, because life has no meaning without something to believe in. So my first suggestion to finding your purpose. Find something to believe in.

Find Something to Believe In

I believe that God has a plan for all of us, and we all have our own unique abilities. Ask yourself this question. Can a puzzle be completed if a piece of that puzzle goes missing? It’s a simple question really, but if I were to tell you that you were a piece of the puzzle of God’s unique plan for your life would you believe that? Maybe, and maybe not. The reason being that many of us doubt that we are gifted with our own special qualities. I know it may be hard to believe, but each and every person matters. Everyone has a purpose.

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

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Be Confident

Before I became a mother I had all the confidence in the world, but it took a while to get that way. Once I became a mother it’s like I had to start the confidence building process all over again. It’s easier to live with purpose if you live your life with confidence. So here are a few ways that you can build your confidence.

  • Self Care
  • Build Healthy Relationships
  • Be Kind and Giving
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Explaining the List Above

Self Care- Many Christians and even non Christians associate self care with selfishness. However, that can be further from the truth. God wants us to take care of ourselves. How can we serve someone else if we are running on empty. You can practice self care by doing at least one thing you love every day, and by also doing things that are necessary. Things like exercise, eating healthy, and maintaining your emotional and physical health. If we are made in the image of God and that is something to be proud of. Own that with confidence. (Song of Songs 4:7)

Build Healthy Relationships – Building healthy relationships is essential to building your confidence. My relationship with God is my top priority, then my family and friends. Building healthy and positive relationships will not only make you feel confident it will also make you happier.

Be Kind and Giving – I have always believed in the reap what you sow. I don’t think that coincidences are a thing. (Ephesians 4:32) When you are kind to others, then others will be kind to you. It’s a simple concept. Try doing one act of kindness a day, and you may find that your life has more meaning to it then you realize.

I hope that this helps you find your purpose. There is nothing that brings more peace, then knowing that you where put on this earth for a reason, and you are that reason. If you enjoyed this post leave a comment below, or share it with others!

"When it comes to the end of my journey it's not about being remembered, but who I am remembered as."

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5 Things to Start Doing in Your 20’s Before Buying a Home

5 Things to Start Doing in Your 20’s Before Buying a Home

Home is where the heart is.

1. Start building your credit right away.

If you haven’t started building your credit that is something I highly suggest putting at the top of your list. When purchasing a home, almost every loaner that you come across will want to know what your credit score is, and how long you have had it. If you don’t know where to start, I would suggest going to your bank and starting with a small student credit card. My first credit card had a $200 limit on it, and I used it on small things like gas and out to eat places.

2. Make sure you are smart with your credit.

I made the mistake of going credit crazy, and now I am having to pay of $3000 worth of debt. Do not make the mistake I made. I only recommend using one credit card like the one I mentioned above, and only use it for one small thing, and as soon as it’s time to pay your monthly payment pay off 90% of what you used. That way you will be building your credit, but not allowing yourself into a massive hole of debt. Just an FYI it’s not free money guys.  

3. Start putting money back for a down payment. 

Look up money saving plans on Pinterest. Figure out what would work best with your budget, and if it means cutting out unnecessary costs then do it. Most sellers require a minimum of $3000 to $5000 down. Just keep the bigger picture in mind, and you could be a homeowner in a year or two!

4. Keep in mind the location.

For future reference think about the future. Is this an area that you want to raise a family in? Is it safe, and what kind of schools are around. This is just something to take into consideration. Especially if you are planning on buying a home with your future spouse.

5. Consider renting before buying.

I know renting may seem like you’re wasting your money, but consider these things. 

  • Can you really afford buying a home just yet? This includes house payments, home owners insurance, water, electricity. When living in an apartment most of the time the only thing you have to pay for is rent and electricity.
  • Do you have the furniture and appliances you need for your home? If you wait and rent before buying, then you will have more time to save to buy furniture and appliances, because most apartments come with the appliances. The only appliances we had to pay for where the washer and dryer, and our microwave. 

Although it is frustrating to live in an apartment sometimes, these are just some things you need to consider. 

I hope these suggestions have helped you. This is something that I wish someone would have shared with me, because it would have helped me to make smarter decisions sooner rather than later, but hopefully I can help someone from making the same mistakes that I did just because I didn’t have the knowledge or understanding of everything that goes into buying a home.

“Life takes us to unexpected places, and love takes us home.”

My Little Family

Nothing ever prepares you for having to be apart from your soul mate, and nothing is preparing me for living the life of a military wife. Yet, here I am getting ready for my husband to leave me to go train for basics. However, it makes me proud knowing that my husband is going to be out there doing something to help someone else. For those of you who do not know me or my family I wanted to take the time to let you all know more about us, and what is currently happening in our lives right now, so here are some photos of my sweet selfless husband Stephen Watkins, and my precious fun and spunky baby boy Ivan Watkins.  Soon my husband will be leaving for the National Guard, and we will be miles apart from each other with the only communication being through letters, so please pray for our family. The transition is going to be different for sure, but with God all things are possible.


“God Bless America, land that I love.”

10 Things To Do In The Summer for Under Twenty-Five Dollars.

10 Things To Do In The Summer for Under Twenty-Five Dollars.

“Here’s to a summer I’ll always remember, and people that I will never forget.” -XOXO Summer 2018

1. Go grab coffee with an old friend, and catch up on life.

Coffee is typically between $5-$10. Try out a new flavor and have fun with it.

2. Acts of Kindness

Do something nice for someone. Is your mom exhausted from working non stop? Offer to help clean around the house. Kindness is free, and it feels great to help someone out.

3. Have a water fight.

  • Buy Water Guns from Dollar Tree or Walmart
  • Fill up balloons with water
  • Have fun!

4. Attend a Festival

Summers are full of free or inexpensive festivals that you can attend. Find one that interests you, and your personal preferences.

5. Go to the Drive-In for $15 a carload.

Split the cost between friends, and buy your snacks from Walmart or someplace like that.

6. Have a summer photoshoot.

Capture those memories. Find something to wear in your closet, and look for unique places to take photographs with your friends.

7. Start a blog.

I know you may think it sounds crazy, but if you love to write, and share your thoughts why not let the world know that creative side to you? They deserve to see it too!

  • Start by using a free blogging platform, and I would suggest using WordPress.

8. Have a game night.

Remember those boring board games that are currently collecting dust in your closet? Well you may be surprised to find that game nights with friends and family can actually be really entertaining. Try it out!

9. Go hiking or swimming in a local area. 

Places near Alabama for those that live in the same state I live in, here are some suggestions. 

  • The Falls
  • The Millpond
  • Little River Canyon
  • Cherokee Rock Village

10. Watch the sunset.

Buy a decent wine, one of my favorite brands is called, “Barefoot,” and it’s only like $10. Enjoy a glass of wine, while watching the sunset.

I hope you all enjoyed these suggestions. Feel free to leave any of your own in the comment box below, and don’t forget to subscribe to my blog for more topics like this!