Five Ways to Thrive in 2019

Five Ways to Thrive in 2019

Every new year is a fresh start. If that’s the case, then why do we feel so negative about making, “New Years Resolutions?” I think it’s because we are looking at things from the wrong perspective. We are putting too much pressure on the year 2019, instead of focusing on how we can take small steps toward a long-term goal. I would love to show you all a few tools that I am going to be investing in this year that will hopefully help us start over fresh this new year.

1. Choose your word.

I would like us to start by throwing out the word,” resolutions,” and replace it by choosing one word or phrase that has meaning to you. For example, my word this year is, “fearless.”The reason why I decided to use the word fearless is that I can be a very fearful person. I have allowed the fear of failure and fear of opinion of others to keep me being the person that God has called me to be.

2. Keep a journal.

Writing your goals down can prove to be very effective.  According to http://Forbes.com    after study shows you will remember things better when you write them down. Typically, subjects for these types of studies are students taking notes in class. However, one group of researchers looked at people conducting hiring interviews. When the interviewers took notes about their interviews with each of the candidates, they were able to recall about 23% more nuggets of information from the interviews tthatpeople who didn’t take notes. Parenthetically, if you’re being interviewed for a job, and you want the interviewer to remember you, you better hope he or she is taking notes. With that being said, if you are constantly writing down your goals, and progress, then you will more then likely be keeping up with them.

3. Accept your good days and bad days

 In a world of deadlines, there is so much pressure to be the perfect, “fitness person, artist, writer,” etc. within a short period of time.  Long term changes do not happen within a month. It takes time and effort for progress to happen. We need to acknowledge the fact that we are still human beings. We will still have that one day on our diet were we crave a donut, and you know what it’s okay to mess up sometimes. Go ahead and eat that donut I promise you won’t die, and it doesn’t mean that all of your effort to eat better has gone to waste. Leave yourself some wiggle room to mess up, and then get back up and start again. Don’t let your not so perfect days keep you from being your best self.

4. Prioritize your time.

It is not enough to be busy. The question is what are you busy about? Henry David Thoreau

To often we are caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that we forget what we are doing in the first place. If we could learn to manage our time better then we could acomplish more. With that being said, here are a few suggestions on how to manage your time better

  • Have a Morning Routine. This is something I am working on this year.
  • Have a night routine. The more sleep you get the better focus you will have for the next day.
  • Eat organic and whole foods. Stop eating processed junk. It slows your body down. 
  • Exercise. It’s been recomended to at least walk 3o min a day to improve metabolism. If you can’t find the time or money to go the gym, walking is free. 
  • Write down your top five priorities for the day. Do those first, and then whatever time you have left you can do the extras. 
  • Make sure you have an hour of self-care and relaxation. 

5. Be in the present. 

Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life. Matthew 6:27

This verse says it all. I am the biggest worrier that you will ever meet, however I am working me best to change that, because the only thing that worrying does is prevent you from growing. How crazy is it to worry about something that hasn’t even happen yet? Let tomorrow have it’s own worries, and stay in the present or the now. Don’t miss out on the beauty of oppurtunity today,because you are worried about the oppurtunities you might miss tomorrow. 

 

Why I Am Taking a Break From Instagram

Why I Am Taking a Break From Instagram

Hey y’all! I hope that you are all having a great start to this new week! So today I am going to be talking about social media. There are pros and cons, and for me personally the cons have been outweighing the pros these past few months. I’m talking about like I have been getting seriously depressed and finding myself losing a part of me that I don’t want to lose, so for that reason I will not be using Instagram again until New Years. The struggles of social media can very from person to person. For me Facebook does not have that affect on me, but for others Facebook may be their biggest weakness. So how can you know when It’s time to step back from the social media platform? Here are three ways that you can know when to take a break, or if it’s serious enough get rid of it completely. 

1. If you find yourself getting lost on social media for hours.

Social media can be really time-consuming, and if I am not careful I can allow it to take over my life. Obsessing over social media Isn’t healthy or beneficial. Once I found myself checking my Instagram every five minutes I knew that I needed a change.

2. When you allow it to affect your relationships.

The other night I had some lovely company over at my house, and instead of being fully present with them I found myself editing a picture to post on Instagram. And later I thought to myself, “Wow, Lauren, quality friends are few and you choose to spend time on your phone with people who probably could care less about you, rather than spending time with the ones who made an effort to be there for you.” If you can relate to this, then maybe it’s time to realize how toxic social media can be, if you allow it.  Personally, I don’t think social media is worth hurting my relationships. 

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3. Comparison 

I can never say this enough. Comparison is the thief of joy. When you can compare yourself and your relationships to other people it can cause so much damage to yourself and to others. Here are a few ways it has affected me in a negative way.

. It made me lose my self-confidence. This was a wake up call that helped me to see that I needed to take a break from social media. 

. It caused me to be someone I’m not. Losing yourself on social media can be very easy to do. Instagram can be a people pleasing platform if you are not careful. Just don’t lose sight of who you are, and don’t lower your values just to get an extra like. It’s not worth it. 

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. It hurt my relationships. I would compare my relationship with my spouse to other relationships. A great way to destroy your man is by telling him what another man is doing right, and what he isn’t doing right. Don’t do that. So what that guy bought flowers every week for his girlfriend. Your man stayed up with you all night when you lost your pet. Did you forget about that? I know it happens, but don’t let it. Realize what you already have before it’s too late. 

If any of these things sound like what you are experiencing, please take serious consideration about what you are gaining and what you are losing from social media. Do the pros outweigh the cons? If not, then maybe it’s time for a break. Please let me know your thoughts on this topic, and feel free to share it by using one of the shareable buttons! Thank you,

Lauren S. Watkins

An Apology Letter to My Husband

An Apology Letter to My Husband

Dear Husband, I apologize for failing you as your wife. These last three months that you have been gone training to serve our country, I have had time to reflect on the wife that I have become. There are things that I have done that have hurt you, and I just need you to know that this is not the wife I want to be. So to begin with I want to say I’m sorry for using my words as a weapon against you. I realize that words can be powerful, and yet many times  I have used them to discourage you rather then to build you up. Words can either bring life or death, and one too many times I have only brought destruction, but how easy it is, when something upsets me to spill words out without even thinking about what happens after I say those words. So today I want to change that. I want to start by encouraging you and bring the best out of you with my words. Second I want to stop putting pressure on you to meet my high expectations. I’m sorry, that when I took on this journey with you I thought I understood what I was saying, when I told you, “for better or for worst,” but in reality I thought that marriage was always going to be eating cake and laughter, so when the bills started pilling up, our child kept us up until 2AM, and you forgot to take out the trash my reaction proved that I didn’t truly mean the promise I made to you. Today I want to give God all of my expectations, and be grateful for the days when you did take the trash out for me. For the time I got sick, and you stopped working just to bring me Chicken Noodle Soup, and for the days that you cooked dinner for me, because you knew how tired I was as a young mother of a 3 month old boy. I want to cherish those moments, the beautiful and the ugly. Last of all I want to apologize for not protecting our marriage the way that God wants me too, and the way you need me too. Days get shorter, and so do my prayers for you. What God has given me I have taken for granted. So starting today I will pray for our marriage, and I will fight for us until my last breath. And when I look back on this day of reflection I want to be able to say, that I love you more then I did when I wrote this for you.