What I am about to say may offend some people, but for me when I took this on I knew that I needed it, and I wanted it to challenge me. I asked a girl who used to be very close to me to answer six questions based on things that Christians say, and how it has affected her or made her feel. This friend of mine is an atheist, and her opinions are hers and I do not want anyone trying to comment anything negative or hateful. So here are a few of the questions I asked her, and I am very excited to be sharing this with you all, because for me personally, I feel like I get lost in religion sometimes, and I forget the people that I am supposed to be reaching out to don’t understand my beliefs or why I do the things I do, so I want us all to learn from each other, and just remember what being a Christian is truly about.
Question 1: When a Christian tells you, but the Bible says…etc. How does that make you feel?
Most of the time when someone says, “Well the Bible says,” I tend to write them off already, “because you don’t understand. I don’t think God wrote the Bible. I think that man did, and so anything that comes from the Bible is irrelevant to me.” So if you start off the conversation saying, “Well the Bible says,” I’m probably going to roll my eyes at you, because I’m going to feel disrespected, if you think that anything that comes from the Bible is going to make a difference to me.” -By the way, these are all going to be anonymous for the privacy sake of my friend
Question 2: When Christians say that only God can make you happy, how does that make you feel?
When someone tells me, “that only God can make you truly happy,” then that is probably true for you, but for me, that is not my opinion of happiness. I think that everyone happiness differs, and for me, I always want to say, “okay make a different point.” I believe that God can make you happy if you believe in Him because once again I think it depends on what your definition of happiness is, and for me being truly happy is feeling confident in my own self, and believing that only I can make myself happy.
Question 3: What do you think, when you hear a Christian say, “love the sinner, hate the sin.”
This statement honestly makes me kind of mad, because the sinners are the ones that sin. I don’t believe that sinners naturally are sinners everything is a personal decision, and so if you sin that’s on you. So I’m not going to tell you it’s okay for you to sin, because you were born with it, because I don’t think that is true, and that statement makes me upset.
So that is all of the questions that I am going to leave answered today. There are six questions altogether, and I just want us to stop and think for a moment those of us that claim that we are Christians, and ask ourselves, who are we really trying to reach out to? Are we just trying to impress our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, or are we actually trying to reach out to others, and are we representing ourselves well? I would also like to think my friend for sharing her honest opinions. We may have gone our separate ways, but she has taught me so much, and I am truly grateful to be able to have the chance to be an open-minded Christian, and I hope it helps anyone who may be reading this as well!