We all fear things in our lives. What we do not realize is that we have to face our fears or else our fears have control over us. Today I am going to share with you some of the major fears that I battle. Sometimes I have to experience it everyday, and I am also going to show you how I keep them from having control over my day to day life. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to stand up to your fears and find freedom from them? Well you can, so keep reading if you want to know how!
- The Fear of Rejection This is a fear that I feel like is so real for many of us, and that is why I listed this one. I feel like at some point in our lives we have all allowed the fear of rejection to control us. The worst part about being controlled by rejection is being taken advantage of. You are willing to let go of your boundaries and you lower your standards to make other people feel happy. This causes you to lose a part of yourself. How did I fight the fear of rejection? Well I had to give it to God, because the truth is you can’t please everyone. I realized that my happiness was important too, and the people that really cared about me wouldn’t want me to change who I am. They would love me for who I am. What about the people who wouldn’t? Well that’s the good part, because you no longer have to worry about who is truly being your friend, when you start taking care of yourself the people who don’t really care won’t hang around, but that’s a good thing. You don’t want to have friends and people in you life that only want to be around you if you are doing everything they want you to do. Ask God to guide you, and direct you and stop letting the fear of rejection keep you from the plans that He has for you.
- The Fear of Losing Someone I love I never really worried about this one until I became a wife, and a mother. When I first became a mother I feel like I was constantly in fear of losing either my husband or my child. I would constantly be calling my husband to make sure that he was okay, and the fact that he now wants to be in the National Guard has added to my anxiety and fears. When Ivan was first born I would constantly check on him to make sure he was still breathing. If he coughed or breathed in a weird way I was terrified. I had heard of people losing their baby, and I just couldn’t bear the thought of losing mine. I would literally come up with the worst case scenarios. What I didn’t realize is that I was allowing the fear of something happening to them to control me to the point of not being able to enjoy being in the present. How did I fight this fear? I once again had to give it to God. I had to tell myself that I wasn’t going to spend another second worrying, and instead pray for their protection and enjoy whatever moments that I do have with them on earth instead of worrying about what could happen in the future.
- The Fear of Not Being Able to Be There For My Children The fear of not being able to be the mom I need to be for my children is also a new fear for me. I once again would come up with these scenarios in my mind. For ex. What if I died and couldn’t be there to raise my children. I allowed that fear to control me so much that anything that was a risk I would want to avoid. Such as I used to enjoy rock climbing, but because I wanted to be there for my children so bad I allowed fear to consume me to the point where I couldn’t enjoy the things that I used to enjoy. Another thing that I would worry about is whether or not I would be a terrible mom if I went to work. I want to be there for my kids, and would I be able to do that and go to work? It seemed like a new fear would come into my mind almost every day. What did I do to change it? I am going to be honest I still battle with this one daily, but I also am determined to give this to God, because I have realized that the enemy can use fear against me. Fear keeps me in a box, and doesn’t allow me to fulfill the purpose that God has for my life, so I will not let it do that to me. I want to step out of the box, and live my life to the fullest, and “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13.
Today I just wanted to be transparent about the fears in my life, some of you may not have the same kind of fears that I have, but we all face fears at some point in our lives. It’s okay to be afraid, but you are missing out if you allow that fear to control you. PS. another silly fear of mine are snakes. I cannot stand snakes, and that is one that I am not sure I will ever overcome, but we will see! Feel free to be transparent with me and let me know what fears you face, and if you need help overcoming them. Stay in tune for my personal series, if you would like to know more about me!